its not an age gap its grooming if they start dating. he knew him as a child,theres a term for people who end up dating said child once they become an adult . ill give u a hint, it starts with pedo and ends with phile.
No, knowing someone as a kid without making any pass or purposefully taking advantage of them doesn’t mean you are grooming them. What bs are you even making up? Without clear intention and purposeful manipulation you can know someone when they are younger and be completely civil and proper with them and don’t have any bad intentions and then your mindset can change when they are grown up completely because you realise they are not a kid anymore
And dear one pedophilia means being attracted to a kid who didn’t hit puberty. Nothing less, nothing more. Please don’t talk about things you have no understanding of
we got another groomer enabler here… an adult who waits for the child to become an adult so they can start dating is a fucking groomer u weirdo. im not saying he is one since theres been no evidence of him feeling any sexual/romantic attraction towards the mc but if it does go down that path then yes its grooming.
If he planned it from the start, we’d be talking about grooming but there was absolute no indignation he had any plan so you are making up bs. And excuse me you are disgusting pos to call me groomer amenable because I didn’t agree with your made up definitions :)))))))
and calling me dear one wont make u sound any less idiotic and creepy
You are making bs literal. You don’t understand what grooming or pedophilia is
Grooming is exactly how it sounds. An adult doing things purposefully to condition a minor into thinking certain things are normal, or conditioning the minor into having sexual feelings towards them. It’s done with malicious intent. Simply knowing someone while they were a minor doesn’t mean they groomed them. In this instance he hasn’t made any moves or done anything inappropriate with the MC, nor has he been waiting until the MC turned 18. It would be one thing if the MC was still a minor but now he’s an adult.
“groomer amenable” you need to search up grooming further than the google definition :) an adult who has known a child and watched said child grow up to be an adult should not be feeling romantic/sexual feelings toward the now grown up adult.
Bravo!!! Someone understands what grooming is
Pleas read Audmod definition because you don’t understand what you are talking about
grooming doesnt just involve minor and adults it can involve an adult and adult as as well wtf are u talking about? they have been knowing each other since the mc was a child and he was an adult, that immediately puts him in a position of power and parental responsibility over the mc since he was young. and with the possibility of him taking care of the mc since he was a child it can definitely be classified as grooming. regardless of the mc being an adult now.
And for your information English is my THIRD language and autocorrection changed groomer enabler to amenable ;)))
Once again where is the manipulation, clear intention or any EXAMPLE of what you are accusing the guy of? Simple knowing someone when they were younger and then showing interest (which he didn’t even show at all at this point loool) when they are few years in adulthood doesn’t mean automatically grooming.
i have been repeating again and again that he is a groomer IF and i repeat IF it is confirmed in the story that he feels sexual/romantic attraction. i am arguing against weirdos like u who wanna ship the two and think that its normal after reading this chapter which confirms the massive age gap not the story since nothing has happened yet. i am very aware of that. i have been constantly repeating that… im not going to continue arguing with a disturbing person like u.
This "lingering perception of the child" is only relevant if you were attracted to them as a child and that is feeding into your attraction to them as an adult.
If you weren't attracted to them as a child but are as an adult, there is nothing wrong and your reaction of being "creeped out" is irrational and unjustified.
And please show me one definition in any psychological paper which matches yours because I’m searching and searching and can’t find anything even a little bit similar to your definition how knowing someone when they were a teen and then finding them attractive years later when you didn’t when they were younger and didn’t have any bad intentions back then… equals grooming. Please show me such definition.
I don’t ship them with all respect, I just call out people who turn the blind eye so easily to rapists ;))))
And I’m just calling you out on your made up definitions which don’t have anything in common with actual medical ones. Your definition of pedophilia was bizarre
And you ate disgusting pos who started calling me disgusting names when I only pointed how ignorant you are and lack any knowledge while pretending you are some kind of expert in the field you have no understanding of clearly. Especially when I spent years on helping victims of abuse irl. So spare me your pathetic accusations and bullshit when I only pointed out the hypocrisy and wrong use of the word. At least at this point in the story.
Him being interested in him as an adult doesn't make him a groomer. If he was they would have had sexual relations or been a couple bc groomers don't wait till ur in ur mid 20s to pursue something with u those pervs want you asap once ur 18/19. Now if the author shows that he was sexual/emotionally interested him prior being in 20s than that would make him a pedo. But at no point has the author shown us he was groomed, of course that May change as we learn more bck story but for now no this is not grooming.
Exactly, thank you
Like at this point it’s clear they just wanna believe what they wanna believe so it’s not even worth arguing with them. People learn a word and run with it. It’s annoying cause relationships and their dynamics are all different. In stories like this, where the author is putting time and effort into making them complex, it’s frustrating when readers don’t acknowledge that they need more understanding and instead just stick a label on them. It does the story an injustice, ESPECIALLY since it’s clear this story needs more time to develop.
Either people don’t understand what grooming means or they are being purposefully misleading with their comments. Age gap is bigger problem than relationship full of abuse, rape and pure toxicity? Age gap is more problematic and makes you more uncomfortable than rape?
We didn’t see (at this point) Taegu making any move on MC or him acting improperly so what grooming? Mc is an adult man at this point too.
Y’all are reaching now to excuse the fact you drool over your beloved toxic rapists MLs