Word.
Ok, so like, after the new chapter there's kinda a new perspective where I think Harari also understood that her complicated mixed emotions paired with the fear and disdain she had would likely have a negative effect on Selphi. A parent having fear constantly mixed to sone degree in the look they give their child is likely to not do well for that relationship. She knew she would be both afraid for and of him and that regardless of which he picked up or how he interpreted it he would be hurt. Either he would grow up possibly thinking his own mother thought he was weak and that because he was too weak or because he was cursed she had to keep a but of distance from her and might even blame himself for causing her pain or he would see his own mother be afraid of him and not be able to feel her full love. Maybe both, regardless those could end up being worse on him and she had no way of knowing the best path to take or what would really be best for him so she made her decision as best she could while bering influenced by extremely negative emotions probably made worse by grief and hormones
The first thing I'd like to say about her is that whether or not she willingly gave up Celphi she isn't really his mother. She wasn't involved in his life whatsoever while he was growing up. She didn't raise him or show him the love of a mother though she may have wanted too. Not just me but numerous members of my family were adopted after being given up by willing and not willing bio parents.
Another thing is that yes, she's a complex character, but that isn't why some people are upset with her (some are cus they can't handle dark complex female characters). While I understand her reaction that doesn't make it justified. She is actively wishing equal harm (death and ceasing of existence) on both people who did and did not harm her. She says cruel things that attack other people's trauma and play on their weak points. She has a negative outlook on things and shares it without being willing to hear from others or what they have to say. On the other hand she loved her husband and did everything expected of her and yet still was treated like breeding cattle that could be replaced and had to fear dying throughout her pregnancy. That can definitely affect your relationship with your child and I believe have a negative effect on the child (one of my aunts was depressed during her pregnancy and it lead to minor complications and less minor effects on her child). She then lost the only person that made being apart of that family bearable. I can only imagine by this point they had already consumed her life (as compared/differing to live) and world.
Her response to her experience makes sense, is reasonable, and very realistic but that doesn't make it ok or just. I like her from a writing perspective but as a character/person am on the fence. Suffering isn't a reason to be hurtful or cruel to others. Though I do understand freaking out when people essentially hunted her down and stayed in her home doing go knows what while she wad away and who were from a family she hates. And that she had to muster up courage to go see them to warn another woman before she was too hurt only to be shown what she believed was ignorance and naivety (and genuine rudeness plus ignorance).