Cher you’re putting so much pressure on yourself over something you can’t control , don’t compare yourself to others that’s will just do you harm, I understand your frustration but don’t let it gets over you , you still can find your way in life it’s okay if it’s take some time because everyone is different , just find something that you’re interested in and try to figure things out , if it doesn’t work it’s okay just try something else, life is filled with so much possibilities you can try it , finally don’t worry about other judging you because who cares about what they think when you are literally trying to find your way it’s on them for being dumb and inconsiderate and try feeling good about themselves on your account ! I wish you all the best !!
Your life doesn’t have to follow a straight line like others maybe do. When I was 21 I thought I had found my way in life. Turned out later I’d studied something, that put me in a job I despised and here I am, 32, starting anew, while others my age are at their goals in life (or so it feels). But you know what? Many of them are bored out of their mind because their paths never really strayed from the main road. Your life can’t be over at 21. Don’t let this setback get to you this way. Go for a walk if you have to get away from nagging parents for the moment. Let yourself breathe. And don’t pressure yourself with thinking about career paths or worse, comparing yourself to others.
You will find your way again, even if it doesn’t look that way right now.
And you’ll be so much stronger afterwards.
Fight this. You’ve got this. And it will be okay.
Take a breath. Enjoy life. Do things you like. Reapply for university.
Remember, life is not a test to see who will finish first.
Life is an endurance test. The test ends when each of us is laid to rest.
Your situation is not something you can prevent and it's ok! This doesn't make you any less important and we understand your situation.
I understand you, trust me. Most of my classmates from school already have jobs, or are doing internship rn. I cleared and entrance exam last year and started my sophomore year. I'm 21 as well. The world won't end just bcz you start a bit late. Please cheer up, things will get better. You can try applying into other courses that interest you. You're more capable thank you think.
Hey don`t feel so down! life is just like that sometimes, always trying to trip you into the mud, and sometimes, people need a bit more time and help to get up. If you feel sad or depressed, you should never have to deal with that alone! talk to your family or friends or even a pet dog or cat! Talk a walk, or go outside for a while! Its okay if you get mud on you face, cuz eventually, it will be washed off. Sorry is my mud metaphor sounds a little goofy, hope you know that even people that you don`t know on the internet support you!!!
Thank you , for your reply. Yes, I also think comparing myself rn , is very self damaging. I'll work on it for the time being.
I get how you feel. After i graduated high school my health has deteriorated tremendously. because of that i couldnt go to college, or even really get a job. I live with my parents. The job thing can be a bit embarrassing but i dont let the other things bother me. I know it isnt exactly the same thing, but i think you just need to make the most of your situation. If you live with your parents still, good for you. use the support available to pursue something you wouldn't be able to if you were supporting yourself on your own. now is the time to think, and to pursue passions and ideas. get yourself a job if you want or need to, but use your extra time to consider your options. You are in a very enviable position! you could do art, or music. the possibilities are endless. College is overrated anyway! it costs a house and when you get out all the entry level jobs will ask for 7 years experience, its ridiculous.
if you still want to go to school, you can save up for it! or look into apprenticeships, or vocational schools! (i went to a vocational high school, they have voca schools for after high school too, much, MUCH cheaper!)
its easy to tell someone to be happy, but thats isnt how it works, i understand that more than anybody. but what i can tell you, is that it would be wise to shift your perspective, and know that I'm rooting for you!
I'm 21. And I wasn't able to get into any university this time. I feel like, I don't deserve anything good in my life. All of my 60% friends have already graduated. And I'm here, can't even get into my sophomore.
I thought about ending it all. I still think so. But am not brave enough. It feels like, every door has been closed.
Last night I realised, I'm even subconsciously restricting myself from breathing properly , because again , I feel like I don't deserve it .
Is it dark phase of my life ? Or life has always been this dark ?