you know what's funny, your condescension and edited OP still make you sound disingenuous af. First times usually tend to hurt a lot more because both parties can be clumsy - which is exactly what happened during their first time (mophead's never been with another man before, hence his comment).
Cute attempt to save the ignorance in your first comment. Next time, perhaps put a bit more thought into your comment if you don't wanna get railed this hard and have to scramble to make yourself look like you know what you're talking about.
TT___TT girl omg i swear i thought i was going insane I even started second guessing myself at some point lol. I guess ppl got defensive because they thought I was shitting (omg pun not intended) on their fave webtoon of the day, I was just complaining specifically about the top having a line that blames the uke hurting on it being his first time instead of him badly prepping him and acting as if its just what happens when u take it up the butt for the first time. Like, that was all on u as the more experienced of the two my man not on the kid's asshole sorry to break it to u. BL have all sorts of weird inaccuracies all the time (like a bottom climaxing from the backdoor from the get-go or feeling it from their nipples immediately haha, they are just weird clishes or tropes that authors love to go for), but this one that korean webtoons have had often these days of it being a bottom's first time and it having to hurt as if they are a woman with a vagina and an unbroken hymen really gets to me because that goes beyond romanticising the perfect sexy time, that's legit terrible sex information and thinking of gay sex in heteronormative ways that are completely skewing reality!!! (off the top of my head, i really like the new employee but they do this there too and in fact they reallyyy hammer it in like he's having his necessarily painful first time as if he's a woman he's legit crying and "putting up with it" and the top just keeps on goingggggg uuugh it's so weirdly out there!!) ╮(￣▽￣)╭
I'm glad to hear u escaped the clutches of shitty anal lol, it's been so long since I had penetrative sex like that but I've had a pretty good history with it tbh, for me it never really hurt unless it happened unintentionally. First time I had anal was with a guy who was pretty experienced with it so even tho I was a complete noob it went completely fine. I did think exactly what I wrote tho lol "this feels weird and could have been more fun if he had gone for hole number 1", it took me a few times to get into it and it def wasnt enough by itself ofc. I do remember tho very distinctly the 2 times someone put it in unprepped by accident and I can say for a fact both times were getting so freaking painful we had to either take a long break or stop fulltime lol like that sort of pain aint sexy
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Alsooo speaking of bad sex info ... I recently even saw in Be the Good to My Bad that the top literally tells the uke he's WET. WET. FROM WHERE SIR U DIDNT USE ANY LUBE. THAT'S POOP JUICE IM SORRY TO TELL U. And then ppl shit on me for calling the ppl who wrote this straight women HOW CAN THEY NOT BE WHEN NOW ASSHOLES HAVE HYMENS AND SELF LUBRICATE I CANT
honestly Id accept the thought that him saying that is written like that by the author because he's also wrong as an option, but I genuinely think that's not what they were trying to do, it read like a justification to the audience, if it was it'd be framed differently to make it clear it was his wrong opinion (one example would be how authors insert comments like "also doesn't know how anal works" or something).
I exaggerated my reaction in my first comment for comedic purposes and honestly that's the only L I'll take lol cause clearly my attitude really rubbed ppl the wrong way, however I don't understand how I can be critical of one sentence off a webtoon, people respond to it this intense and with like legit meanness and I... have to not be defensive even a bit apparently for someone to take what I say seriously? Am I not allowed to be snarky back, why? I can have all the facts be on my side but because "I sound disingenuous" me genuinely explaining smth doesn't count? Why?
I do not feel embarrassed about this (& I would be if I were wrong), I am legit confused and kind of horrified that this is the result of the horrible sex ed teens (?) are getting, or it made me think that maybe it's more true than I expected that ppl reading BL may have gotten a bizarre (and weirdly heteronormative!) idea of what anal looks like. I could have just deleted this post if I was embarrassed you know, I wanted to actually explain how anal works to ppl who clearly had no idea and were (allegedly) having painful sex for no reason!
It feels like ppl respond more to "vibes" than to what I actually say.
Fair enough. I definitely don’t agree with the others who started taking the piss and you have all right to clap back at them. I’m sorry too for misunderstanding what you intended to convey.
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my deepest condolences or happy for you
Did that weirdo say after they first did it that it hurt because it was his first time??? GIRL THATS AN ASSHOLE NOT A VAGINA THATS NOT HOW THAT SHIT WORKS I SEE THIS IN SO MANY KOREAN WEBTOONS DO KOREAN STRAIGHT WOMEN THINK ASSHOLES HAVE A HYMEN OR SOMETHING I AM SO DONE WITH THIS K-WEBTOON TROOOOPE
edit: dear lorddd look at all these responses y'all are hilarious. I've had, for better or worse, enough of a slut phase in my life to not be talking out my ass (lol, sorry, I had to). If you don't prep at all and it's a huge penis, ofc it can hurt like hell (and btw I can't stress this enough, it's not the kind of pain that u can just put up with, it's like getting kicked in the balls kind of pain that just makes u hunch over lol. A forceful, rapid entering down there doesn't stretch things out as much as IT MAKES RIPS IN UR GUT U GUYS).
However, and this was my point, it has NOTHING to do with it being your FIRST time, it has to do with how much effort u put beforehand into stretching it out gradually and even more SUPER IMPORTANTLY: LUBE. CAUSE ANUSES DON'T SECRETE MUCH. My point wasn't that feeling pain during anal is weird, but that the top acting like it was because it was the uke's first time that he felt pain was weird. And yup it is a trope that happens in more korean webtoons that the uke just has to "put up with it" during their first time as if they are a virgin maiden.
Idk what kind of horrible anal yall are doing that hurts like hell but I think u need to go see proctologists the lot of you, also did whoever penetrated you gaslit you into thinking pain like that is normal because it really really isn't. Tearing up and grinding your teeth for your first time has.... no relation to proper anal sex because there's no "first" time there!!!! Your gut is an exit not an entrance, like all the time!! It can potentially push out doogies the width of a dick with enough effort like every other day (well, not like this guy's tho...), and for the virgins out there this is a good analogy: I bet uve been in a situation once or twice in ur life where a huge poop might hurt, and it might even bleed down there (and get infected!!! IF U SEE A LOT OF BLEEDING OR U STILL FEEL A BURN THE NEXT DAY GO TO THE DOCTOR) but the width of the gut bounces back! IT'S A GUT YOU GUYS. The most that can happen in terms of discomfort on ur first time of doing anal when ure prepped fine is that it will feel strange and uncomfortable as its a very specific sensation and it takes quite a bit for most to get proper pleasure out of it (and if ure a woman, u often end up thinking that this could have gone in hole number 1 and ud be having a better time lol, since without a prostate the anus takes a lot longer than for a guy to become an erogenous zone).
I cant tell whether you've all just had painfully badly prepped anal for no reason or are lying or have seen only porn that romanticize the backdoor's virginity or something what's up. Ofc it's also possible you all cant read and didn't realize I specified my issue was the top blamed it on it being the uke's first time but I'll leave it up to u lol. I cant believe Im out here explaining this to ppl pretending they know for a fact weirdly wrong information lol.
Please practice safe, infection free sex guys! ヾ(❀╹◡╹)ﾉ~