..... yeah anal hurts in real life. its not a "trope" its reality.
stuff wasnt designed to go in there, especially over and over. All that friction in a dry area that is tight... fucking hurts.
its going to take a lot of time of constant stimulation and prep for your butthole to loosen a bit.
Its not built like a vag where it can self lubricate, can expand on arousal as well as built for that constant friction.
if you watch actual IRL porn from both men and woman, specifically where they clarify thats its the persons first time. you can hear the painful grunts.
this pain isnt only in fiction and isnt a k-bl trope that straight women made up. i think your forget that everyone has a butthole, you can even try it yourself with a finger and it fucking hurts.... your just ignorant and dont do your reasearch.
assuming that all manga authors are straight and women that are ignorant just speaks on how dumb you are. newsflash, woman can play with their ass
oh also, to specify what i meant by the gut bounces back.
For example, if u have anal for the first time, and then have anal the day after and the day after that and then the day after that, then sure, the first time will be more uncomfortable and require more effort than the rest, cause the gut's diameter wont have shrunk. If, however, u have anal for the first time, and then have anal again like 10 days later, sorry to tell u ure back to square one with stretching guys. Cause again, IT'S NOT LIKE A VAGINA. There is no first time!!! The gut is made to stretch out according to the size of ur potential excrements, AND THEN STRETCH BACK UP. So no, there is no first time, just GOOD PREP AND PROPER LUBE, once again. And if ure polite, some douching. Tho Im pretty sure Ive seen a yaoi/BL mention douching in my 8 years of reading like... twice lmao.
girl idk where you learned this stuff from but...
a vagina does NOT get looser after your first time. it's the same exact thing that happens with an anus, the walls go back to their normal diameter. you keep saying the anus is not like a vagina (which it isn't yes) but the ass is like the vagina in THIS specific aspect. the vagina goes back to its original shape after sex, and so does the anus. having vaginal sex for the first time and then 10 days later you have vaginal sex again it is NOT like the first time. same applies to anal.
and again, there is a first time with anal. be fr did you get an sexual education i'm genuinely curious no hate. if you have anal for the first time ever and then 10 days later have anal again, you are NOT back to square one. it's still different biologically and prep wise because your body has experienced it before. it will not be the same as having anal the first time.
what. i did not mean that vaginas stay loose. Why are you taking the most uncharitable interpretation possible to anything I say, I literally took the trouble to explain so thoroughly everything (like come on this is a walltext up there on my edit), yet you found the least generous way to read what I wrote in the few things I did not explicitly clarify. You only responded to this one thing I did not say explicitly, too.
I meant that with a vagina, it is true that your first time something enters there it does hurt for most (not all tho!) women. I can say for me, it hurt the second and the third too, but apparently that's not typical. Honestly you guys made me think maybe my asshole not hurting on my first time or most times after (apart from those it happened by accident >_>) with anal was some crazy exception I was born with not gonna lie like there were so many replies I double guessed myself or thought maybe it's that I've forgotten cause its been too long since then (I dont fuck men anymore therefore no anal for me - unless fingers count - since like 2019 lol), but u know just look it up in a sex ed website literally they all say it doesn't have to hurt if u prep properly and its not what should be expected.
Idk why you all acting superior while being wrong on such a weird topic. Anal happens in ur gut. It's where poop comes out of. That's the original purpose. Humans putting their dicks into other humans' anuses has very little to do with their intended function.. If I had anal now after 5 years of not having any it'd be exactly as long to get prepped as it did when I was a 22 year old doing anal for the first time and thinking this shit feels weird again.
I think you are trying to make me mad or something by the derogatory way you talk but tbh Im just confused, like is this really the hill you wanna die on?? If you can only respond by throwing insults at least I know ure just being a troll and dont actually care.
I have at least done my part of not giving the underage kids here crappy sex ed info.
Since Ive already wasted my time here again, here's another tip for the crowd: Go to the toilet and wash down there even if u cant douche. And for those doing the penetration, if a fingernail or two comes out with some poop under it, dont make the person whose asshole u fingered embarrassed, just go wash em lol.
I was about to write a whole paragraph but then read your edit and just violently deleted everything bc you're so right.
The first time I didn't feel a damn thing, and most of the times didn't have healthy sex and just hurt like a bitch and I know for a fact it's bc I wasn't ready (girl I was always drunk af), the other was a total asshole who only cared for his own pleasure and so many other things that I don't wanna specify.
It's so fucked up bc talking about these things was taboo till recent years, so it was very hard for a virgin to know what to do to make the whole experience as enjoyable as possible.
What changed everything for me was start using lube and stop fucking with jerks lol.
Everyone experiences things in a different way. For some people, their first time hurts like hell, but for others was okay/good and that's FINE as long as it's consensual.
So yeah, everyone should ENJOY what they're doing, use LUBE (know your lube) and stay tf away from people who don't care if they hurt you or not.
And another thing: I'm with you with the way authors tend to portray anal sex, it was always so funny to me like HOOOOOW CAN YOU DO THE THING WITHOUT USING ANY LUBE OMG poor uke lol.
(English isn't even my 2nd language so i'm sorry if I misspoke lol).
Did that weirdo say after they first did it that it hurt because it was his first time??? GIRL THATS AN ASSHOLE NOT A VAGINA THATS NOT HOW THAT SHIT WORKS I SEE THIS IN SO MANY KOREAN WEBTOONS DO KOREAN STRAIGHT WOMEN THINK ASSHOLES HAVE A HYMEN OR SOMETHING I AM SO DONE WITH THIS K-WEBTOON TROOOOPE
edit: dear lorddd look at all these responses y'all are hilarious. I've had, for better or worse, enough of a slut phase in my life to not be talking out my ass (lol, sorry, I had to). If you don't prep at all and it's a huge penis, ofc it can hurt like hell (and btw I can't stress this enough, it's not the kind of pain that u can just put up with, it's like getting kicked in the balls kind of pain that just makes u hunch over lol. A forceful, rapid entering down there doesn't stretch things out as much as IT MAKES RIPS IN UR GUT U GUYS).
However, and this was my point, it has NOTHING to do with it being your FIRST time, it has to do with how much effort u put beforehand into stretching it out gradually and even more SUPER IMPORTANTLY: LUBE. CAUSE ANUSES DON'T SECRETE MUCH. My point wasn't that feeling pain during anal is weird, but that the top acting like it was because it was the uke's first time that he felt pain was weird. And yup it is a trope that happens in more korean webtoons that the uke just has to "put up with it" during their first time as if they are a virgin maiden.
Idk what kind of horrible anal yall are doing that hurts like hell but I think u need to go see proctologists the lot of you, also did whoever penetrated you gaslit you into thinking pain like that is normal because it really really isn't. Tearing up and grinding your teeth for your first time has.... no relation to proper anal sex because there's no "first" time there!!!! Your gut is an exit not an entrance, like all the time!! It can potentially push out doogies the width of a dick with enough effort like every other day (well, not like this guy's tho...), and for the virgins out there this is a good analogy: I bet uve been in a situation once or twice in ur life where a huge poop might hurt, and it might even bleed down there (and get infected!!! IF U SEE A LOT OF BLEEDING OR U STILL FEEL A BURN THE NEXT DAY GO TO THE DOCTOR) but the width of the gut bounces back! IT'S A GUT YOU GUYS. The most that can happen in terms of discomfort on ur first time of doing anal when ure prepped fine is that it will feel strange and uncomfortable as its a very specific sensation and it takes quite a bit for most to get proper pleasure out of it (and if ure a woman, u often end up thinking that this could have gone in hole number 1 and ud be having a better time lol, since without a prostate the anus takes a lot longer than for a guy to become an erogenous zone).
I cant tell whether you've all just had painfully badly prepped anal for no reason or are lying or have seen only porn that romanticize the backdoor's virginity or something what's up. Ofc it's also possible you all cant read and didn't realize I specified my issue was the top blamed it on it being the uke's first time but I'll leave it up to u lol. I cant believe Im out here explaining this to ppl pretending they know for a fact weirdly wrong information lol.
Please practice safe, infection free sex guys! ヾ(❀╹◡╹)ノ~