love this bl but

Yu Jung May 2, 2024 10:59 pm

public stuff is a big no no for me especially if it’s bdsm related. don’t use others who aren’t involved OUT of your play.

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    JulyInAugust May 3, 2024 12:47 am

    Yeah, exhibitionism is a real turn off for me, involving people who didn't give their consent into a sexual behavior is not okay.

    Yu Jung May 3, 2024 12:52 am
    Yeah, exhibitionism is a real turn off for me, involving people who didn't give their consent into a sexual behavior is not okay. JulyInAugust

    yea same i cringed the whole time i read the chapter…if this becomes more of a thing in this i’ll simply drop it

    Jayjay May 3, 2024 4:50 am

    What do you think bdsm is? Public humiliation is a famous trend in BDSM community.

    Yu Jung May 3, 2024 5:08 am
    What do you think bdsm is? Public humiliation is a famous trend in BDSM community. Jayjay

    i know full well what bdsm is i’m in the community, i know public humiliation is a big thing but guess what? that doesn’t you give you the rights to do that. you are acting out your fetish using innocent bystanders that’s literally sexual assault.

    JulyInAugust May 3, 2024 5:15 am
    What do you think bdsm is? Public humiliation is a famous trend in BDSM community. Jayjay

    You say it as if that's what bdsm is all about. Being famous doesn't make it okay and also I'm pretty sure there's ways to do it with consenting people if it's somehow vital for your enjoyment to be publicly humiliated.
    Or maybe play pretend, trick the partner into thinking other can see, hear or intrude on when they actually can't.
    But masturbating in public almost naked is just unhinged and very disrespectful of others' boundaries. Putting someone in a position where they're forced to experience your behavior, before they can express they're uncomfortable with it, if they ever have the bad luck of walking on your play session is all kind of fucked up imo
    Like what are THEIR safe word ? They can unwillingly participate in it without the safety of being able to remove themselves.
    That's beyond humiliation and enter harassment territory which is a big no for me.

    Jayjay May 3, 2024 7:00 am
    You say it as if that's what bdsm is all about. Being famous doesn't make it okay and also I'm pretty sure there's ways to do it with consenting people if it's somehow vital for your enjoyment to be publicly hu... JulyInAugust

    That’s a big no FOR YOU. They have a safe word if you just read the freaking story. They have VERBAL and NON VERBAL signal. I said public humiliation is a BIG PART of BDSM. BDSM is literally a concept that goes beyond someone’s mind. It’s not just bondage in a chair, whipping someone, blindfolded and stuff. If you could only know that BDSM also includes talking like an animal, being tied up like a fish while people watches you, and sometimes, BDSM doesn’t even include sex at all. From the get go, this story would explore BDSM - heck, this story even implied that you could freaking DIE while doing BDSM and no one would consent to die while having sex but all you’re worried about is public humiliation in BDSM.

    Yu Jung May 3, 2024 7:09 am
    That’s a big no FOR YOU. They have a safe word if you just read the freaking story. They have VERBAL and NON VERBAL signal. I said public humiliation is a BIG PART of BDSM. BDSM is literally a concept that go... Jayjay

    you said a lot of nothing in that comment, it doesn’t matter how popular public humiliation is in the community i stand by not using people and sexually assaulting them for your own fetish.

    bishan May 3, 2024 11:33 am
    That’s a big no FOR YOU. They have a safe word if you just read the freaking story. They have VERBAL and NON VERBAL signal. I said public humiliation is a BIG PART of BDSM. BDSM is literally a concept that go... Jayjay

    bruh public humiliation (in this case) forces other !!! non consenting !!! ppl into your play and that’s why it’s not cool … not everyone would like to come across some masturbating dude in a empty parking lot, trust me

    JulyInAugust May 3, 2024 1:55 pm
    That’s a big no FOR YOU. They have a safe word if you just read the freaking story. They have VERBAL and NON VERBAL signal. I said public humiliation is a BIG PART of BDSM. BDSM is literally a concept that go... Jayjay

    And if you just read my freaking comment you would have known I was talking about the random strangers' safe word, not the sub and dom's.
    They are made part of the play without their consent and don't have a safe word.

    Dying because you consented to take part in a dangerous act is on you. But walking in on a guy masturbating in a public place is not the result of your choices. You do what you want with your life but not what you want to other people's life, your freedom stop where someone else begin. You are free to do whatever bdsm you want as long as you don't ignore people's freedom to not be integratedm in your play.