Dawg no way

Flufformeowmeow April 22, 2024 5:47 am

HOW IS SHE GONNA BE THAT MADDDDDD BRO HES BEEN TOLD YOU HE DOESNT WANNA TALK ABOUT IT He’s never been one to tell her how to deal with her family or business but she feels the need to tell him how fast he should’ve gone about telling her HIS SECRET??? Like brooooo come on. I get feeling betrayed, BUT HE LITERALLY SAID “my parents are dead and I have siblings but they are dead to me” that’s all you really need to know. If your partner doesn’t associate with his family that doesn’t mean for you to go prying. I just think she’s not used to not having the upper hand and having what she planned to not go her way. I’ll be back when this dumbass argument is over

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    SilverVine_Cat April 22, 2024 6:18 am

    I'm 100% with her on this lol. She's being like that because of their respective positions. You're treating it as if she's not about to be forced to take on a position with huge amounts of responsibility that she never wanted just because of his family situation. She's been saying the South is everything to her and she doesn't want to leave, but now she finds out that he's the crown prince and being married to him makes her the crown princess now. From her perspective, if his position doesn't change, then she is going to become Empress and will have to leave the South. His unique family situation is precisely why he should have told her before she heard it from someone else. His relationship with his family doesn't mean shit in this situation, he's still the crown prince and that isn't a position that is easy to throw away because you don't want it. The proof is him still being crown prince even though he's been gone for so long.

    The reason she waited for him to tell her is that she assumed, and trusted, that it wouldn't affect her life much even if she never found out. She assumed he was, at most, an estranged son of a high-ranking noble. A high-ranking noble wouldn't have the power to force him to come back with her to take over their house. That's a different story if he's the crown prince. Regardless of his wishes, if his father finds out where he is, he 100% has the power to order her to leave the South and come with him to the capital and act out her "duties" as crown princess. You don't get to keep something that life-altering a secret from your spouse. At the point where it's something that could alter the course of both of your lives, that secret is no longer "yours." To put it in modern terms, it's like they got married and he didn't mention that he's going to inherit his parent's massive debt when his parents die. In this case, the "debt" is the responsibility of ruling an entire god damn country.

    Frankly, it shows a lack of trust and respect for her on his part. He should have trusted that she would be able to handle the information if he told her calmly himself before the whole thing blew up. If he had told her before he was found, they could have come up with countermeasures together to prevent him from being found at all. Even if he waited until after he was found to tell her, they still could have had time to talk things through and come up with countermeasures to prevent him from being forced to take on responsibilities as crown prince. But because he waited so long while being afraid of her reaction, it's probably too late to do anything to help the situation politically now.

    Flufformeowmeow April 22, 2024 7:55 am
    I'm 100% with her on this lol. She's being like that because of their respective positions. You're treating it as if she's not about to be forced to take on a position with huge amounts of responsibility that s... SilverVine_Cat

    Yes but you also need to understand that the length of their relationship is at a weird phase they’re married, but they have just known each other max 3-4 months maybe even 5 months. We have yet to know why he cut off his family, they might be married and he loves her and all that doesn’t mean you tell them your deepest darkest secrets/ traumas. I understand that it completely changes her life too, but did you think he thought it through, probably not because in his mind he thought of them as dead and probably didn’t know they would still consider him a crown prince after being gone for so long. Especially when he himself had renounced it multiple times, and no one else had reached out in those years. Frankly they both didn’t consider most things beforehand. Also the way she worded it makes me believe she was rather angrier at not knowing first before someone other than him told her than him being crown prince. Also the way her father words it is perfect, she had a planned idea of how her marriage would be and is upset at the change in plans because as we have heard multiple times throughout the story “she always gets what she wants” and this time it’s outta her control. I’m not saying her anger is all misplaced but I am saying it seems a bit dramatic to me, if you feel differently then that’s your opinion.

    Applecreampied April 22, 2024 4:40 pm
    Yes but you also need to understand that the length of their relationship is at a weird phase they’re married, but they have just known each other max 3-4 months maybe even 5 months. We have yet to know why h... Flufformeowmeow

    Plus she knows full well that he has secrets and she also has clues that those secrets might be directly related to his birth/family. I think she’s more angry at the way it was revealed to her, she wanted to know it in a situation where he willingly tells her everything but was revealed through someone she was annoyed that (Chloe). Another thing is she never hid that the reason she wanted to get married in the first place is directly related to her right to inheritance and her domain, yet his secrets is something that could greatly affect the very reason why she married him hastily. She has her secrets (reincarnated) but his secret is something can affect her and her life. It was dramatic but it is understandable. They even tricked her into an oath that risk her life (another variable that she can’t control)

    SilverVine_Cat April 23, 2024 1:17 am
    Yes but you also need to understand that the length of their relationship is at a weird phase they’re married, but they have just known each other max 3-4 months maybe even 5 months. We have yet to know why h... Flufformeowmeow

    That's a fair point about them not knowing each other for that long. I also agree that she's more angry about the fact that she had to hear it from someone else. I mean she also got to the point where she had basically figured it out on her own and started dropping hints to him to tell her so she could confirm her suspicions. She also knows that she's being a bit childish about snapping at him, but then she got upset again about him avoiding her. At this point she doesn't want the whole thing to blow over in like a day because then that would indicate to him that he doesn't need to feel guilty about keeping the information from her. I will still stand by how it shows a lack of respect for her on his part though. I mean, maybe it's just me, but if you really like someone you should feel okay trauma dumping to them (I get that some people have a hard time talking about it, but he doesn't seem like that), especially when it's something that can affect both of your lives so deeply.