Don't understand the Jaeha hate

ulthunie April 13, 2024 5:05 pm

Genuinely I don't get it. First of all barely anyone acknowledges the trauma that Jaeha went through. Like boy was a freshman being told by his professor that he loved him and got manipulated into having sex at school often even though he was uncomfortable with it. Which ultimately led to someone taking a photo of them having sex, him being outed, getting bullied, and the man he thought loved him leaving him.

Like yeah this man has commitment issues dude who wouldnt after that??? Also so much easier said than done for him to deal with his trauma like who can he talk about this with? His friends? Family? A therapist? Like mental health and being gay are both taboo in korea so this man had nowhere to go. Not even mentioning that his father was abusive.

Is he a perfect character without any flaws? No. He clearly has problems with being loved and trusting others in relationships. He hurts people as a result of his insecurity and guilt. But also he's a human being. He's not meant to be a perfect character. Straight up being honest only reason he ends up being happy is because Eunho is such a persistent bitch who is constantly showering Jaeha with love and showing him that he will never leave regardless of his flaws thus ridding him of the insecurities, trust problems, and commitment issues.

But also I don't get the constant slut shaming. Like he genuinely thought the professor loved him. Then straight up when he first meets Hanjun his first words to him are "I don't date men though". Making their relationship as friends with benefits very clear. If Hanjun still pursues him romantically after that thats his problem not Jaehas ok. Hanuun went into it knowing he was fighting a losing battle and that he was gonna get hurt lets be so real. He was also loyal to Hyeson and truly loved her, author says he's bisexual and truly cared. The reason why they got divorced was not because he was cheating (of which he never did), not even due to the photo. It was because he was too scared to put all his trust into her due to his baggage, and she felt like there was no changing him at that point. That she wasn't a good enough wife if he couldn't trust her. Like Straight up let's be for real this man has 4 bodies only. He's 30 with 4 bodies. Half were deadass relationships: his professor and Hyeson. Only 1 being a full on sex friends situation: Hanjun. And the last 1 being sex friends to committed relationship: Eunho.

Like he's a grown man. Didn't cheat on anyone. I don't fucking get this shit. If you hate him for his baggage and hurting Eunho that's fair like whatever man we can agree to disagree. But the slut shaming is crazy.

Responses
    Charllote April 14, 2024 6:28 pm

    Wow.... Tht was whole lots of things..
    Well I also agree tht atleast he was not a slut..
    But he had serious trust issues and that's wht I kinda hated about him... Cause he knew how much eunhoo loved him but still he was acting like a coward... Idiot... It was nice tht he met his ex wife and she put some shit in his brain.. And then he got together with eunhoo again...

    munch. April 15, 2024 8:02 am

    LOUDERRR!!

    Chibi April 17, 2024 3:04 pm

    I agree, why must people slut shame... If you make it clear what you want from a relationship, why must you be blamed for it?

    Megumi's step mom April 26, 2024 4:04 pm

    claps for u