I really feel for him

Meru21 April 13, 2024 11:53 am

I was in our Sunbae's position in my 20s. No debt, but my mother refused to work and as hella abusive. She kept bringing home dogs, too, which she never took care of. My little brother spent most of his time at a friend's. I did all the cooking, cleaning and worked 40+ hours a week, got paid bi-weekly and still only had 30$ and the end of each pay period, which i had to keep in my bank account in order to actually keep the account. I only ate on days I worked. I used to pass out a LOT. But it was either my dogs eat, or I eat. I chose my babies, because duh, but sometimes I could only feed them eggs. My mom, though? She was stealing my money from my bank account t and eating whatever she pleased., but I didn't find that out until later. It was all just a mess of a situation. I weighed 95lbs most of the time. My mother was also my ride because I didn't have a license (she refused to take me to get one and wouldn't lend me a car even if I did have one) and I always worked past the bases. I would go to a nearby Walmart and wait in the McDonald's there. The manager used to give me his discount and free food because he knew even without my saying so that I was flat broke. I cried the first time he did that. It was just so nice. Now, I still suffer the effects of that time because I developed hypoglycemia and a weakened immune system. Its important to eat and keep yourself nourished. And exercise!! Super important to develop that into a habit. And go to the dentist.......shit you'll regret in your 30s if you don't do them in your 20s.

Responses
    NickyDo April 13, 2024 12:05 pm

    I'm deeply sorry to hear about everything you went through during that time. It sounds incredibly tough, and I admire your strength in persevering through such challenges. As French people say, "après la pluie vient le beau temps" - after the rain comes the rainbow. Your resilience is inspiring. Take care of yourself and remember to prioritize your well-being. If you ever need someone to talk to, I'm here for you.

    Meru21 April 13, 2024 12:09 pm
    I'm deeply sorry to hear about everything you went through during that time. It sounds incredibly tough, and I admire your strength in persevering through such challenges. As French people say, "après la pluie... NickyDo

    Thank you. I'm very stable now, thankfully. I have a good life and I've always said "things could be worse" even back then. It's gotten me through a lot. I really appreciate your kindness.

    NickyDo April 13, 2024 12:17 pm
    Thank you. I'm very stable now, thankfully. I have a good life and I've always said "things could be worse" even back then. It's gotten me through a lot. I really appreciate your kindness. Meru21

    You've grown into someone very strong today, and that's an achievement to be proud of. Wishing you all the best, please, take care of yourself. And remember that you’re not alone.