It's still a predatory relationship to be with someone you took care of as a baby, and it's also downright creepy and unstable to seek out something like that frrom a carwtaker. Just because the person is mentally unwell to inniate such relationship doesn't make you morally neutral to participate in it.
That doesn’t make it any better. It is still wrong. He still excepted all that behavior. He’s supposed to be a teacher. He’s supposed to be a guy. He should’ve seen the issues with this being OK with his advances. Regardless of it being like oh my God he’s older now he knew him is fucking kid almost a baby that’s freaking weird that’s not OK. Would you be OK if you say Dad mom‘s friend? That took care of you when you were a little kid that is literally the age of your parents and you said oh I put them in a pedestal when he was younger. I like him I’m gonna go and try to fuck him and he’s like oh yeah come here do you think that’s OK? Literally just imagine that that’s weird as fuck. It seems like gentle grooming
I hate the loving them as a child to getting together when grown up. idc if they’re legal I just don’t like it.