Frustrating

DirtyFcker March 19, 2024 1:02 am

The fl acting like that family is the enemy is getting really frustrating, she so focused on the sister in her pass life for what! Not wanting the things her passed life sister would want blah blah. She ain’t there yet so there yours get over it . She’s fixing her new life to be like her old one . Hope she starts treating the men in the family better soon

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    SunshineLight March 19, 2024 5:38 am

    You don't really understand trauma do ya? Like I get why you're frustrated because you see she's pushing away people who seem to care about her but don't forget she lived an entire life where she was hated, vilified, and ostracized by those very same people. It can cause so much mental and emotional whiplash especially since she is fully expecting them to treat her like they did in her previous life when her "sister" comes back in the picture. Let people be traumatised and heal, that doesn't happen overnight, and if you're seriously that frustrated why not drop this? I'm sure there are a bunch of other works where the author straight up ignores the trauma they wrote for their character

    Miaru March 19, 2024 7:53 am
    You don't really understand trauma do ya? Like I get why you're frustrated because you see she's pushing away people who seem to care about her but don't forget she lived an entire life where she was hated, vil... SunshineLight

    You are a badass sir/ma'am, didn't read the thing yet but this comment convinced me.

    Morohtar March 20, 2024 1:31 pm
    You don't really understand trauma do ya? Like I get why you're frustrated because you see she's pushing away people who seem to care about her but don't forget she lived an entire life where she was hated, vil... SunshineLight

    The problem is that this is NOT the type of trauma depiction that is working. It's the classical depiction of what someone THINKS trauma is like. Kinda like all those Twitter and TikTok idiots who pretend to have some sorta trauma to justify their bad behavior or not wanting to face reality.

    The author made the MC acknowledge that this current life and the characters is different, yet immediately ignores that again and proceeds to make her behave more and more pessimistic and downright obnoxious to the point of make HER the problem and not the behavior of others. Her behavior is not realistic given that a traumatized person in her case would NEVER ignore the realization she previously had, so early on even. That realization would alter her behavior and impact each moment. Which is not the case.

    This author tried to depict a traumatized, depressed character, but only succeeded for a short time and entirely missed the mark at so much as chapter 16.
    This main character is not likable in the least and the author does not know enough about writing such a character to tackle the topic in such a hard way.

    As much as I adore stories about traumatized and depressed characters finding happiness in a re-run, this story failed on the most important aspects. Which justifies people being so annoyed by it all. Because; if it's done even just remotely wrong, things can be easily ruined for the reader.

    And just as a reminder; while, yes, there ARE people who act like this IRL, in fiction (especially for a main character) it is important to alter behavior to make the MC appealing. If the MC is NOT appealing, people will not like them and keep reading. (Which is why people mention their disgruntlement, as OP rightfully did.)

    Masserz March 20, 2024 4:11 pm
    The problem is that this is NOT the type of trauma depiction that is working. It's the classical depiction of what someone THINKS trauma is like. Kinda like all those Twitter and TikTok idiots who pretend to ha... Morohtar

    Literally could not have explained it better

    Morohtar March 20, 2024 9:24 pm
    Literally could not have explained it better Masserz

    Thank you~ ヾ(❀╹◡╹)ノ~

    Miaru March 21, 2024 12:21 am
    The problem is that this is NOT the type of trauma depiction that is working. It's the classical depiction of what someone THINKS trauma is like. Kinda like all those Twitter and TikTok idiots who pretend to ha... Morohtar

    Idk shes just like me, so me likey.

    Had depression from child neglect + SA from very early years to my adulthood. And even though I am better now and see meaning in life after a long long while, its still hard to believe I am loved and that there is a future for me sometimes. I literally brainwashed myself as a kid just to survive and cope.

    The internalisation of the self hatered in the mc is really well showed. She is inteligent enough to realize stuff, but that doesn't solve anything if she's too far gone and doesn't want to continue on.

    1st was apathy and acceptance, and horror of living thought the same shit hole again (One may prefer suicide to anything in that state really, I know I probably would If I was forced to live my shit again)

    And then we see her confused and angry, thats the 1st step to healing we saw I believe. Bring angry at the people who hurt you, allowing yourself to be angry with them is very healthy. Letting the internalised self hatered out.

    For me she is a very likeable and relatable character. At so many points in the the other stories the characters would 'change' and then never think about their roots again and live with the characters as if nothing ever happened... as if they magically forgot or just... got over it. In one arc. While I get its probably good for the story flow and stuff - I am tired of it.

    This series definitelly showed the struggle well imo. Or at least enough to play at my heart strings because of the 'shared' history.

    Curing oneself from those thoughts is not easy and not a linear journey. It is a rolecoaster. Once the trust is broken its hard to rebuild it again. And I think this series also serves as a guilty pleasure - to see the guilt of the Nacht siblings and father in real time.

    I can imagine it's frustrating for you guys, but for me it is liberating to see my journey of the the mc in fiction.

    So, lets just say its about preference and move on, sending love! There's so many manhwas to pick from, so not liking one or two is normal.

    Morohtar March 21, 2024 3:14 am
    Idk shes just like me, so me likey. Had depression from child neglect + SA from very early years to my adulthood. And even though I am better now and see meaning in life after a long long while, its still hard ... Miaru

    That's probably the goal tbh: A self-insert.
    It DOES work as a self-insert, but only few people will be able to relate. Hence why for fiction it's usually the case things are made simpler, more generically understandable/relatable, you could say? I suppose this author expected the light moments with 'comedy' panels to be enough to have other readers stick around, but that doesn't quite work. XD

    I'm sorry to hear that you went through such bad things in your life btw. I hope life only holds good things for you now. ;v;

    I agree that there is many important steps that were depicted in this story early on that are absolutely realistic, just the nuances were missing to have the reader know; she's progressing. Which is why so many people ended up annoyed.
    It's nuances that were missing to make it have that important factor that keeps me reading with other stories, I suppose. I have a hard time pinpointing it tho. So it's likely more factors than one maybe.

    I get being tired of the 'healed too quickly' aspect. Many authors make that mistake to just rush to the 'she fixed now :3' part while neglecting how heavy trauma is to overcome. That's why I adore Skip Beat! so much; it has a rather realistic, yet not too quick pace to work on the MC's trauma but it does not rush or neglect the importance of that aspect of the trauma still lingering, not being magically healed for good. (Too bad so many people reading that manga missed the point of it being about healing trauma and first of all; getting revenge, instead of being just a love story between a newbie and seasoned actor. :'D makes me so sad.)

    But I digress.
    I think you have a good point with it being very relatable and likable to people who took damage irl themselves being the ones to enjoy this story the most. Maybe that was precisely the goal for the author. A self-insert for themselves and other people like the author? I can definitely see that working and while it is more of a niche target audience, it wouldn't be strange to have that be the exact goal. There is something for everybody out there after all! :)
    (Sometimes I wish it wasn't so tho, what with some of those VERY messed up stories I have seen out there, haha. Trauma of this kind is cotton candy compared to some of those.)

    Thank you very much for your kind words~. I'm sending lots of love back! <3
    To each their own, as the saying goes. I'm always happy to hear people share the opinion of not everybody have to like everything, that's also not common in MGs comment sections nowadays. X'D

    I hope you and the others have fun reading! I hope this story has a very great ending that you all can enjoy. ヾ(❀╹◡╹)ノ~