It's honestly more unrealistic if she's only ever known blood and war and then suddenly she comes onto the scene fully understanding feelings. That's not realistic at all. She's slow when it comes to feelings and it makes fcking sense ntm that the prince hasnt done anything ro assure her of anything.
Like some of yall came here without reading properly and with completely different expectations of her. It's always been stated since fcking chapter 1 that she will and has always prioritized the rebuilding of pervaz and her people. She's never known greed bc she didnt have the luxury for that. She's always only ever learned to think of others as she is their leader. Her people have been suffering for decades and have only just started getting back on their feet and yall expect her to just rearrange her priorities bc yall dont like how she very understandably lacks an understanding of feelings? Mind u, she grew up without her mom or anyone to explain emotions to her. Since she was a child, her father has ingrained the sense of responsibility into her so she's always carried that burden with her to the point that she doesnt even think of herself anymore bc that's how she grew up (as in, she grew up thinking of her people and her people alone, making sure they survive). Yall wanna mock her for not understanding feelings whennu cant even understand her circumstance.
I dont get thr hate towards fl. I also dont understand why yall are acting as if the battlefield would have taught her how to navigate feelings. It literally does the opposite. FL is not dumb. She understands politics and can navigate that well. Feelings are an entirely different matter and something that was not and has never been explained to her. She only learned the necessary things she needed to survive which didn't include fckass love. She needed to learn how to fight to survive. She needed to learn how to play mind games in politics so her people would survive. Love and feelings on the other hand isnt something that she needed to learn so she put that in the backburner. Yall keep forgetting that girlie spent her ENTIRE LIFE IN THE BATTLEFIELD, literally struggling to survive and struggling to keep her people alive and yall would demean her character just bc she's understandably naive when it comes to feelings. Feelings dont come naturally to everyone. Especially not to someone who's only ever known blood and war all her life.