yaoi will heal once authors wake up and realize the innocent virgin with experienced top trope is gross and weird!!! i agree with you, it’s offputting when authors make vulnerable people do hardcore stuff and its always done incorrectly too. no safe words or rough handling as a form of communication…
and like it would be okay if authors were willing to actually ease into the hardcore stuff and allow the naive one to actually learn about sex but noooo.! too worried about getting to the okey poke
yup exactly this
don’t even get me started… not even prepping either and acting like assholes get wet when aroused, it makes me shrivel up. how painful and dry!!! there’s no question about it, inserting it forcefully without lube WILL tear tissue and cause severe bleeding holy shit
ESPECIALLY for virgins. hell vaginas are designed to get wet and its still advised to use lube when needed especially after going multiple rounds. an all around a lack of sex education is being expressed in these stories
I like reading stories, bl or otherwise, when both characters are well aware of sex and what that entails. Even if one character is a virgin, and might be nervous, they aren't naive about it. One bc im tired of reading those plot lines. But majbly because a lot of these smutty BLs dip into kinks and bdsmesque stufd and it always comes off a little weird when the majn character has never had sex before and their first time is some real kinky stuff. Like some of those characters gave never even masturbated before. when both characters have experience I feel like it translates better.