My bf wanted to do anal with me but doesn't want to prepare me for it and I got stuck preparing myself and did anal. Ended up ripping a new hole. It was a bloody mess.
So if your husband really wants to do anal. He better prepare you good or else it will hurt like sht. Preparing by yourself can only do so much since our fingers are a lot thinner and smaller than da male. So if he's not gna prep you, don't do it cuz it's not fair on us who has to take it.
Thanks sis, I try to sound enthusiastic to get him to help prepare me for it, but all he does is make faces as if he's disgusted with the thought of stretching me even when I said he's supposed to do that with a condom.
He's a good man, I don't regret marrying him. I think I'm sad about the fact that there are things we can't do together, sexual things, which are supposed to keep marriage spicy and spontaneous.
At present, I just dismiss the anal talk altogether.
It's really rare to find someone who's able to fulfill not just your soul but also your weird kinks in bed. Not everyone is as accepting and open to explore things together.
My husband for example wants to try anal sex but cannot stomach the thought of stretching my ass or helping me prepare for anal sex. Note that I've never tried anal before, so I guess we're never really going to try it since I'm not gonna give my anal virginity to someone who just wants to stick it in with no regard for my poor ass.