Am I one of the few people that think irrational and anger-driven jealousy and bad communication are... like a bad thing? I have quite a few arguments to back my boy Shizuma up. He's just being a nice person, kind to his coworkers, with a sense of duty, very courteous. He even wanted to buy his boyfriend a gift even though he didn't know that he was mad simply because he smiled at someone, even if it wasn't romantic. And he only didn't know because of a lack of communication and he even asked several times and wanted to clear things up. I am reading a lot of comments about him being the problem.. but I don't see any flirtatiousness from his side towards his coworkers. He was just being kind in a non romantic way. Smiling isn't romantic. Helping someone get their hair unstuck when it might really hurt isn't romantic. Getting a lift from his coworker as an apology for making him work overtime Knowing he's going on a date with his lover. They know he has one. His boss taking his clothing wasn't his fault and he was also uncomfortable. Also there wasn't anything sexual about it. not in the slightest. Most of all it was emberassing and if he wants to get his boss to warm up to him getting teased usually means that people feel comfortable around you. Enough to get a little cheeky and acting like friends. (Though a little inappropriate, but his boss clearly does not have that good of social skills, which he might have noticed and it might be a weird way to connect. I wouldn't interpret that as hitting on him immediately..) He doesn't make a secret of his boyfriend. Even his boss said that, all his coworkers know about him. Like.. guys, am I the only one confused? When properly communicated he does try to do everything he can to support his bf and make him happy. You can't cater to your partner all of the time if it's against your nature. When you are a socially open and outgoing person who's naturally kind to others you won't just start being all cold and mean when your lover is uncomfortable with you smiling at others. Even when it makes them upset. You can't change your whole personality. Maybe they are not that compatible but they work through their weak points. That's fine to me. No one is the problem, they're both trying very hard to overcome trauma and insecurities.
Am I one of the few people that think irrational and anger-driven jealousy and bad communication are... like a bad thing?
I have quite a few arguments to back my boy Shizuma up. He's just being a nice person, kind to his coworkers, with a sense of duty, very courteous. He even wanted to buy his boyfriend a gift even though he didn't know that he was mad simply because he smiled at someone, even if it wasn't romantic. And he only didn't know because of a lack of communication and he even asked several times and wanted to clear things up. I am reading a lot of comments about him being the problem.. but I don't see any flirtatiousness from his side towards his coworkers. He was just being kind in a non romantic way. Smiling isn't romantic. Helping someone get their hair unstuck when it might really hurt isn't romantic. Getting a lift from his coworker as an apology for making him work overtime Knowing he's going on a date with his lover. They know he has one. His boss taking his clothing wasn't his fault and he was also uncomfortable. Also there wasn't anything sexual about it. not in the slightest. Most of all it was emberassing and if he wants to get his boss to warm up to him getting teased usually means that people feel comfortable around you. Enough to get a little cheeky and acting like friends. (Though a little inappropriate, but his boss clearly does not have that good of social skills, which he might have noticed and it might be a weird way to connect. I wouldn't interpret that as hitting on him immediately..) He doesn't make a secret of his boyfriend. Even his boss said that, all his coworkers know about him. Like.. guys, am I the only one confused?
When properly communicated he does try to do everything he can to support his bf and make him happy. You can't cater to your partner all of the time if it's against your nature. When you are a socially open and outgoing person who's naturally kind to others you won't just start being all cold and mean when your lover is uncomfortable with you smiling at others. Even when it makes them upset. You can't change your whole personality. Maybe they are not that compatible but they work through their weak points. That's fine to me. No one is the problem, they're both trying very hard to overcome trauma and insecurities.
Amen.