I personally don’t think we should forgive peoples poorly thought out actions because they are pitiful. At times I do feel bad for him but it is easily overwritten when I see things through the girls eyes.
I feel like we should understand both perspectives and weigh the effects of peoples actions. The fl is probably in a lot of mental distress but she never took it out on anyone.
I feel if my hypothetical bf broke up with me and I had a mental breakdown and refused to leave; although my situation may be heartbreaking, it doesn’t excuse I have overextended my stay.. he also probably feels really distressed that I have not listened to him and and is not totally mentally stable. He rightfully so may feel uncomfortable and unsafe.
Hopefully, now you’ve understood what I’m saying.
This is the first time that i'll be wishing for a 2nd ML to appear and be the end game of FL. I just don't want our Fl to end with this obsessive mf.