Its just my opinion, dont need to be so offended by it :)))) the chemistry doesnt seem to be the same. Ian was beaten, threatened and then shushed with money, how is that something to aspire of? Why should he do this when the other person, as of now, does not show clear indication of wanting to give up their criminal past? He still maintains contact and associates with his past lover/gang and its fully aware that he is watched. In my opinion, Ian shows a greater level of maturity and what he wants, i think he should find a partner that makes this, instead of playing a game of cat and mice with the other two.
I'm a Ian stan and I hate to break it to you Ian has no maturity to handle anything related to his life yet due to his upbringing and past trauma. He can't think straight. If you leave him like this he'll be in this circle for the rest of life. Do you know who actually shows a greater level of maturity in this story? It's Jo and I'm not even his stan.
I wish with all my heart that TJ is the ML, just because i cant get over the fact that Ian deserves something better than this. I just hope Ian will soon move on because boy, its kind of clear that he is not welcomed and will never be in this whole mess.