What is a rape apologist

Empowered Guardian February 18, 2024 1:14 am

https://www.shatteringthesilence.org/blog/identifying-a-rape-apologist#:~:text=%E2%80%9CRape%20Apologist%E2%80%9D%20is%20an%20umbrella,race%2C%20ethnicity%2C%20or%20age.
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None of this fits to my friends and my comments. The trolls impersonating me are embarrassing themselves.


Identifying A Rape Apologist
“Rape Apologist” is an umbrella term for someone who for someone who blames survivors, has a general disbelief in allegations of assault, and participates in the normalization of sexual violence. They can be any person of any gender identity, sexuality, race, ethnicity, or age. While the term make evoke an image of a particular group or type of person, in reality, anyone can be a rape apologist. A rape apologist is not just someone who is outwardly aggressive towards survivors who speak out or someone who makes sexually harassing comments, they are also someone who is apathetic or tolerant towards sexual violence. One either participates in upholding or dismantling rape culture.



Reluctant to Believe Survivors
When they hear about allegations of sexual assault, they immediately ask for proof and claim that the perpetrator is "innocent until proven guilty.”

Why is this a problem? Immediately demanding proof demonstrates that one has an inherent disbelief of survivors and needs to be proven otherwise. While innocent until proven guilty is a good method for our legal system, it is not supposed to be a tool that we rely on in order to demonstrate our support for survivors. Most survivors do not report, and most of those that do report do not get their day in court to prove that the perpetrator is guilty.



Making Excuses
When they or a friend get accused of inappropriate behavior, they shrug it off, downplay it, and insist that the person who committed the act is a good person.

Why is this a problem? No form of sexual violence should be downplayed or ignored and all survivor experiences are valid. Additionally, part of breaking down rape culture is understanding that anyone can be capable of sexual violence; there is no quality that someone can have that absolves them of any guilt. Someone can be a good person to you and be abusive towards someone else.



Definition of Consent
They have a distorted view on how to give and receive consent and deny that certain behaviors are sexually abusive.

Why is this a problem? Someone cannot participate in dismantling rape culture if they do not know what behaviors are wrong. Not only will not understanding consent result in sexual violence, but it will cause them to be dismissive towards acts of sexual violence they hear disclosed.



False Allegation Panic
They wrongly believe that false allegations are a serious threat to them or others and overestimate the prevalence of false allegations, resulting in an inability to provide support to survivors.

Why is this a problem? It is false. False reports are extremely rare. Widely reported statistics put the estimated number of falsely reported assaults at 2-10%. But even this is an overestimation, because a rape has to be reported first in order to be considered falsely reported, and 90-95% of survivors do not report their assault. Therefore, that statistic only applies to 5-10% of assaults, putting the real statistic closer to .5% of disclosures of assault (Heaney 2018).



Reactivity
They get more upset about allegations that they believe are false than allegations that are proven to be true.

Why is this a problem? As mentioned above, false allegations are extremely rare and it is statistically unlikely that a survivor who is disclosing to you is not telling the truth. When someone gets more angry about allegations that they suspect are false than they do over true and proven acts of sexual violence, it demonstrates that they find false allegations of sexual assault worse than sexual assault itself. In reality, sexual violence is a pervasive and undeniable fact that plagues all societies around the world and the extremely low rate of false accusations does not compare in its social impact.



Victim-blaming
They engage in typical victim-blaming behaviors such as asking whether the survivor was drinking or what they were wearing.

Why is this a problem? Victim-blaming is essentially telling survivors that they took actions to deserve or expect their assault. No survivor EVER deserves or invites sexual assault. Engaging in this behavior demonstrates that one finds victims more responsible for their assault than the assailant.



Distorted Views of Sexual Violence
Their understanding of sexual assault does not go much farther than the dark alley stranger stereotype. they have a hard time believing sexual assault that occurs between partners.

Why is this a problem? Sexual violence rarely happens in the ways it is potrayed in the media and almost always involves someone that the survivor knows.



Objectifying Others
They overly sexualize people around them and make inappropriate comments to the person's face or behind their back.

Why is this a problem? This is sexual harassment, which is a form of sexual violence.



Do Not Employ a Zero Tolerance Policy
They continue to associate themselves with friends and acquaintances who have allegations of sexual violence. Additionally, they continue to support celebrities who have allegations against them. They continue to surround themselves with these abusers even after the allegations have been proven. While they may state that they are trying to remain neutral, neutrality only benefits those who are causing harm, not receiving it.

Why is this a problem? Survivors often cannot rely on the traditional justice system to hold the assailant accountable. As a result, they rely on social justice from their friends, family, and peers to hold them accountable by denouncing the behavior on a zero tolerance policy. Sexual violence is never okay and it can never be swept under the rug.

Responses
    Empowered Guardian February 18, 2024 1:23 am

    I don’t see that in your comments at all. I don’t see quoting research from sex experts there. These trolls are threatened by being exposed and they know you proved them wrong

    levipleasecallmeback February 18, 2024 2:09 am

    OMG! I am so threaten I have to support my friends who are impersonating you because I can't handle the facts. I have to make questions and topics to defaming you. I have to pout and be a pos.

    Empowered Guardian March 1, 2024 7:15 pm
    I don’t see that in your comments at all. I don’t see quoting research from sex experts there. These trolls are threatened by being exposed and they know you proved them wrong Empowered Guardian

    Exactly.

    Empowered Guardian March 1, 2024 7:44 pm

    Them (bullies/trolls/haters): (for how they see us standing with research and facts: )
    'JK is a rapist' = opinion
    'JK is not a rapist but a sexual abuser' = opinion

    But we have said the story says he is not a rapist but you can view it as rape.


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    How they (bullies/trolls/haters) handle a different opinion.

    'JK is a rapist' = Absolute fact (raging, fuming, and seething)

    'JK is not a rapist' = you need mental help because I can't handle others's opinion.
    Jaekyung is a rapist. Attack attack attack degrade degrade.

    Then they say you see nothing wrong with it. (Introducing the third view.)

    IT MUST BE JK IS A RAPIST OR I PUNISH YOU! I CALL YOU NAMES THAT MAKES ME LOOK INGORANT AS I MISSUSE TERM AND TRY TO FORCE MY OPINIONS ON YOU. I WILL DEGRADE YOU. Then I and others will pretend I did nothing wrong and when I am called out I will make it look like an attack and you are in the wrong.


    -Lends to the side to peek out behind the door.. Um are you okay? lets back away from that hostility. Who needs the mental help? Who can't accept an opinion? And who is ignoring their behavior and gaslighting others behavior.
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    REALITY:

    Jk is a rapist = opinion
    Jk is not a rapist but a sexual abuser =opinion
    Jk is not a rapist and there is nothing wrong with his actions = opinion.
    This and that opinion. There are more.

    We are saying with the facts, story, and research. It is a fact he is not a rapist but you can view it that way. We are not sharing our opinion. We are defending the ones who share their opinion who is attacked for having a different opinion. We use evidence to support the truth. We have solid grounds for that conclusion

    We are saying everyone should respect each other's opinions. We have stood up when others are attacked for having a different opinion. We never attacked or insulted anyone besides in pretending. If you feel insult, it was probably the reverse psychology we used and you felt insult from what you were doing to us.
    We called people out for their bad behavior. What we have stood against is the attacks, not the opinions.

    When have I shared my opinion on Jaekyung, Jinx, or whatever. You get Jaekyung is toxic but not how I view him. I never said much about Jinx. I have said I don't read toxic stories much. My opinion could be the first time is rape but Jaekyung did not know. ( a fourth opinion in how to see this. There are more).
    You will never know my real opinions. They don't matter as I stand with the facts. The gaslighting from cyberstalkers and trolls don't matter either.

    Stop. Cyberstalking is a crime. We said it before. Now it is clear it is cyber stalking. We don't want any contact from them. We want them to stop and stop harassing others, especially the ones impersonating us. Or we will report this.

    https://www.mangago.zone/home/mangatopic/15488220/