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I think they are comparing not because the characters are the same, but because the plot is following a similar path. Obviously the details aren’t exactly the same, but there’s a LOT of similarities to be found.
It’s just BJ Alex, but “let’s see how toxic the seme could go”
Nothing wrong with it being similar. Tropes exist for a reason.
People keep comparing the situation in Jinx to what happened to BJ Alex, but gosh, things were definitely different there.
Sure, Alex was a little cold and sometimes rude but the real negative reaction he had was when the uke (sorry I don't remember the name) got drunk and barged into the room he was having a live streaming, which was really important for him and anyway he had set boundaries clear from the start. So yeah, he went through a redemption arc but there was something to redeem there and Alex's behaviour could be someway justified even if we didn't know his tragic past.
But here? This jerk treats Dan shit 70% of times and the other 30% just like a mere sex toy.
No redemption arch can save him.