I continue to read this because I’m genuinely curious what the conclusion will be. Now that it’s been awhile, I think I’ve come to a slight new conclusion about my thoughts on her staying in this marriage. Ultimately, I don’t believe marriage is only for couples in love. At the end of the day, marriage is just a legal document that allows for the government to have a say in your relationship with someone. In the US, you sometimes hear of people marrying for the benefits. Or sometimes for a better chance at citizenship. In cases like those, as long as both in the marriage are aware of the circumstances, it’s whatever to me. My frustration with FL is that she is closing herself off from ever finding someone new to stay with someone who doesn’t feel the same way as her. She loves him romantically while he loves her platonically. Additionally, he cheated on her. I get why he did it. But it was still wrong of him, and if he had any respect for her, he would’ve come to her first. I just can’t understand tying myself down to be with someone who could do that to me.
I think I could be more okay with the dynamic if I knew she had fully come to terms with the fact that their romantic relationship is forever over. It’d maybe even be nice if she was able to have her own romantic partner who doesn’t care that she’s married to a gay man and understands her reasons for staying. Of course, that’s very unrealistic in real life but for the sake of this fictitious story, it’d be nice.
I continue to read this because I’m genuinely curious what the conclusion will be. Now that it’s been awhile, I think I’ve come to a slight new conclusion about my thoughts on her staying in this marriage. Ultimately, I don’t believe marriage is only for couples in love. At the end of the day, marriage is just a legal document that allows for the government to have a say in your relationship with someone. In the US, you sometimes hear of people marrying for the benefits. Or sometimes for a better chance at citizenship. In cases like those, as long as both in the marriage are aware of the circumstances, it’s whatever to me. My frustration with FL is that she is closing herself off from ever finding someone new to stay with someone who doesn’t feel the same way as her. She loves him romantically while he loves her platonically. Additionally, he cheated on her. I get why he did it. But it was still wrong of him, and if he had any respect for her, he would’ve come to her first. I just can’t understand tying myself down to be with someone who could do that to me.
I think I could be more okay with the dynamic if I knew she had fully come to terms with the fact that their romantic relationship is forever over. It’d maybe even be nice if she was able to have her own romantic partner who doesn’t care that she’s married to a gay man and understands her reasons for staying. Of course, that’s very unrealistic in real life but for the sake of this fictitious story, it’d be nice.