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LayLights January 11, 2024 5:25 pm

I love this story. Chaotic, messy, and toxic as fuck, but sue me, I have problematic taste when it comes to fictional characters. I just- UUUUGGGHHH I LOVE THIS SO MUCH

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    sH9 January 11, 2024 6:13 pm

    as long as we know it ^^

    in my opinion, I only feel uncomfortable and see problem when people refuse to name things they see in the story, for instance using the expression green flag where it doesn't belong. But enjoying problematic content whilst being lucid about it is one of the wonders of fiction. Kinda like watching horror and action movies?
    But yeah really important to keep in mind that in the real world someone like TJ should be in jail, and completely out of the life of their victims, and the development we're shown and endearing scenes are not a reflection of real life abusers !

    LayLights January 11, 2024 6:56 pm
    as long as we know it ^^in my opinion, I only feel uncomfortable and see problem when people refuse to name things they see in the story, for instance using the expression green flag where it doesn't belong. Bu... sH9

    YES! Omg, yes, this is exactly the kind of mindset I have too! Everything you said, especially the horror and action movies thing.

    People avidly enjoy watching horror movies, playing war games, and watching shows that don't reflect proper, or even healthy, relationships amongst the characters for the drama aspect! It's the same with problematic erotica.

    As long as we acknowledge and know in our minds that this is not something to be condoned or even romanticized in the real world, it's fine to enjoy it fictionally, and that doesn't make you a bad person XD

    Not gonna lie, though, it also makes me feel a bit uncomfortable when a person doesn't acknowledge those facts, even off handedly is good enough to not be disconcerting.

    sH9 January 11, 2024 7:53 pm

    yeah, I think it makes me feel uncomfortable because it makes me worried people in real life would endure too much when suffering abuse, instead of running away, by clinging to a hope their abuser will change, or feel a duty not to abandon them.

    I think it is in the public interest and especially women's interests (also man of course) that most people and hopefully all people have a good grasp / understanding of what abuse is, and how to protect yourself or another person from it.

    I fear that since girls and women are veeeery often exposed to toxic romance stories, their standards for a relationship fail to see abuse as it is, and exposure to super toxic stories (which is the case here) may make less spectacular looking abuse look normal when it's really not. Especially controlling behaviours.
    I'm very glad in a number of countries awareness is rising about abuse and I'm thankful to all the people that help protect others in all kinds of ways

    LayLights January 12, 2024 5:41 am
    yeah, I think it makes me feel uncomfortable because it makes me worried people in real life would endure too much when suffering abuse, instead of running away, by clinging to a hope their abuser will change, ... sH9

    It's definitely a valid concern. There are a lot of depictions of toxic relationships in every day content. And some people really do grow up thinking that's something they want. That there are people who can't quite grasp the reality of abuse, manipulation, and coercion, the absolute importance of avoiding it. But, yes, the rising awareness is very relieving.