I’ve been on this app for almost 4 years now and I have read almost every good bl there ...

gaarascumslut December 31, 2023 8:09 pm

I’ve been on this app for almost 4 years now and I have read almost every good bl there is… this might be my last year because it’s not good anymore sadly

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    Gazella December 31, 2023 8:50 pm

    what about trying out new manga genres? there are alot of great manga and manhwa out there.

    Lian December 31, 2023 10:01 pm

    im lost if your already read list is accurate because mine is over 3k and still i havent read all the good bls out here

    Mei December 31, 2023 10:10 pm

    Try the fucked up ones for a change

    Skoopy December 31, 2023 10:34 pm
    im lost if your already read list is accurate because mine is over 3k and still i havent read all the good bls out here Lian

    Yeah they definitely HAVE NOT. Unless they read on other sites too but oh boy they got a lot to experience. Honestly I’d take the advice of the other comments. Read another genre, verge out of what you’re comfortable with or just take a break from reading entirely. It’s what I do, my break can be reading anything but bl or just not reading at all but it’s like liquid gold when I come back.

    Skoopy December 31, 2023 10:35 pm
    Try the fucked up ones for a change Mei

    Make sure to delete your history if you do this though… don’t make the mistake I did

    gaarascumslut December 31, 2023 11:27 pm
    what about trying out new manga genres? there are alot of great manga and manhwa out there. Gazella

    I have read arounf 200 non yoais I think I’m just bored of manga in general lol but thanks for the suggestion:)

    gaarascumslut December 31, 2023 11:28 pm
    Try the fucked up ones for a change Mei

    I do and they keep me up at night.

    Delano December 31, 2023 11:33 pm

    I got tired of BL too and stopped reading it for a year or so but now I'm back on that BL grind. Might be a good idea to just take a break from BL and manga in general for a while

    Mei January 1, 2024 12:12 am
    I got tired of BL too and stopped reading it for a year or so but now I'm back on that BL grind. Might be a good idea to just take a break from BL and manga in general for a while Delano

    I need more advice from you, i feel like im forcing myself to read bl just bc its fun even when im tired so it feels like shit, i dont feel like im able to stop even so

    gaarascumslut January 1, 2024 12:13 am
    I need more advice from you, i feel like im forcing myself to read bl just bc its fun even when im tired so it feels like shit, i dont feel like im able to stop even so Mei

    THIS IS THE SAME WAY I FEEL!!!, I think it’s because I started reading bl when I was in a depression and I was young too so I feel like I have to read lol

    Mei January 1, 2024 12:20 am
    THIS IS THE SAME WAY I FEEL!!!, I think it’s because I started reading bl when I was in a depression and I was young too so I feel like I have to read lol gaarascumslut

    Do you perhaps feel like youre a little close to being addicted to it ?

    Mei January 1, 2024 12:22 am
    THIS IS THE SAME WAY I FEEL!!!, I think it’s because I started reading bl when I was in a depression and I was young too so I feel like I have to read lol gaarascumslut

    Also i totally get you, the joy bl offers is almost surreal so reading that gives some crazy dopamine rushes, but we got way too used to this dopamine that its hard to stop overnight, and just as u said, most of them pale in comparison to the good ones i read previously so insteas of the joy u feel u just end up feeling shitty that u wasted ur time and forced urself for something that didnt even give u the pleasure u expected

    gaarascumslut January 1, 2024 1:59 am
    Do you perhaps feel like youre a little close to being addicted to it ? Mei

    Mhm I don’t think it’s an addiction I just like reading them because it’s fun lol

    Delano January 1, 2024 2:06 am
    I need more advice from you, i feel like im forcing myself to read bl just bc its fun even when im tired so it feels like shit, i dont feel like im able to stop even so Mei

    Similar thing happened to me! I used to read BL into the wee hours of the night - it felt like I had no self-control and I would feel physically sick because I was so sleep-deprived. I always felt really bad about myself for putting myself through that for no good reason. Unfortunately, what got me through this was anhedonia (which is often a symptom of depression) - I stopped enjoying BL as much, so I would only read it out of habit before I finally stopped reading it at all for a while. Now, BL doesn't give me the same dopamine rush it used to, so it's easier to take breaks.

    Delano January 1, 2024 2:19 am
    I need more advice from you, i feel like im forcing myself to read bl just bc its fun even when im tired so it feels like shit, i dont feel like im able to stop even so Mei

    Realizing I said all that and didn't even give any advice... I think the main issue is that when you're in the throes of "addiction," it's just so hard to pull yourself away from something you find so pleasurable, even though the consequences majorly suck. One technique you could try is this: at a time close to your preferred bedtime, you could put down your phone or whatever device you are using and tell yourself that you'll able to resume reading in 10 minutes. Ideally, you'll have fallen asleep by the 10-minute mark; but if not, you can go through the process again of telling yourself that if you make it through the next 10 minutes, you'll be able to read BL again. Alternatively, if "fooling" yourself in this way doesn't work, you could actually allow yourself to read it at the first 10 minute mark for 10 minutes, and then take another 10-minute break, shrinking the time you allow yourself to read each time. You could also throw your phone away after each increment of time so that you feel less inclined to go and get it when the break is up. I have so many other suggestions I want to say but I've already written way too much. This is just one idea I came up with on the spot - I hope it can be helpful in some way, either as it is right now or modified. It's basically how I get myself to do chores sometimes.

    Mei January 1, 2024 10:18 am
    Realizing I said all that and didn't even give any advice... I think the main issue is that when you're in the throes of "addiction," it's just so hard to pull yourself away from something you find so pleasurab... Delano

    Thank you so much, I'll make sure to try this, thank you for taking the time to share with me these priceless advice