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Honestly this is the hardest thing to find. There are a lot of “alpha males” but “alpha” and “controlling” doesn’t mean “dominant”. I’m personally a switch with a preference for sub which is exactly how I know most “doms” are not doms at all. I hope you eventually find your perfect dom! If you go to Reddit, they have a subreddit for advice. I saw a dating site they were talking about on there once but I was in a relationship at the time. Maybe try to search for it there? Apparently it’s vetted as only for BDSM.
People are complaining about the sex being hurtful. It's called rough sex. It's supposed to hurt as much as it feels good. You pain before you feel pleasure that's why you blend the two. But it's probably my opinion but bdsm without the pain in pleasure feels unrealistic. Some people like those expressions. But again it could only be me