This is an amazing comment. Glad I scrolled down today. Thanks for your amazing insight, it was an honor to read.
hi, can i ask you what do you think about dojae's behavior/actions in the beginning? only if you're comfortable tho. i would really like to see things from another perspective
Of course, I would like to tell you. Bear with me since I'm not good at explaining such feelings since I can't feel them fully as much as Dojae can't.
But as I was reading the manhwa forward, Dojae found his own ways to understand people's feelings through their body language, but he could only understand the obvious feelings such as happy, angry, or sad, since there can also be happy tears, a fake smile, and calm anger, which are more nuanced and difficult to interpret. Despite this limitation, Dojae's ability to read basic emotions through body language still allows him to connect with others on a certain level and navigate social interactions to some extent.
And he used to have many girlfriends, but he never thought too seriously about all of them since, for him, those kinds of things aren't such a tea. Dojae's preference for casual relationships may stem from his difficulty deciphering the subtleties of complex emotions. As a result, he tends to prioritize surface-level connections rather than delving into deeper emotional bonds. This approach allows him to maintain a certain level of detachment and avoid getting entangled in the intricacies of romantic relationships.
But it's not like he's apathetic, but more like he simply doesn't even understand what sypathy is. This lack of understanding of sympathy may also contribute to Dojae's preference for casual relationships, as he may struggle to empathize with others on a deeper emotional level. Consequently, he may find it easier to maintain a certain level of emotional distance and avoid the potential complexities that come with more committed relationships.
And yes, he was literally a bratty guy but he never intentionally hurts anyone's feelings. He just doesn't grasp the concept of emotional vulnerability and tends to prioritize his own independence.
Like kissing a girl while he has things with Eun-Tak, he thought only a kiss wouldn't hurt anyone, but from normal people's perspective, that's just whoremonger stuff. This lack of understanding regarding emotional vulnerability can lead to unintentional harm in his relationships, as he may not fully comprehend the impact of his actions on others. While he may view certain behaviors as harmless or insignificant, they can be perceived differently by those around him, causing hurt and confusion.
But indeed, like I said, he is someone who can't even name his own feelings, so it will be far more difficult to try to understand others. And Dojae might be an introvert too.
But he never forces himself on someone since he always knows that people come to him when they want something from him. This self-awareness of Dojae's boundaries and respect for others' autonomy can be seen as a positive trait. However, it may also lead to a sense of isolation or loneliness, as he may struggle to initiate social interactions.
To conclude, he is a man of few words, but if he's doing it, it's just simple because he wants to.
Or he's acting that way because he used to act like this in the past all the way.
thank u so much for your insight!
My pleasure.
As a former person diagnosed with an invalid emotion disorder (Alexithymia), it's just fascinating to see how well written and drawn the character is. Everyone might see him as a brat (I can't deny that he really was one). However, the depth and complexity of his emotions, as portrayed in the story, make him a truly compelling character. Despite his bratty behavior, the character's journey allows for a deeper understanding of and empathy towards individuals with emotional disorders like Alexithymia.
He tried his best to convey his feelings, and he's still trying to express and say out loud such complex feelings for Enutak. Some may find the couple boring, but for me, as someone with a similar disorder, it's such a wave of emotion after emotion that someone like us can love someone and feel loved by someone too.
I'm so proud of Dojae and can't thank enough Euntak for being an understanding person despite Dojae's complex personality. Dojae's struggle with Alexithymia is not only depicted through his difficulty in expressing emotions but also through his efforts to understand and navigate his own feelings. Through his relationship with Enutak, Dojae learns to appreciate the importance of emotional connection and the power of vulnerability. I'm just simply overjoyed.