“How do I tell her that”

It’s a culture
Also it’s a culture we transmit, seven years old are already pretty deep into mind reading and guessing intentions and making decisions out of frictional interpretations, primary school is big into bullying these days too
Kids reproduce the models they are given
The good thing is that there are lots of antidotes and positive ways to communicate, even if it’s not so simple to overcome life’s habits, it’s absolutely worth it
Btw it would be good to teach these to kids before our bad and painful ways become there’s