She didn’t at all say he’s becoming like his father, she said he was picking up one of the traits she most wanted him not to have. And Youngchan didn’t push his father in self-defence, his father wasn’t even mad that he stopped him from slapping her more, he lifted the golf club to discipline her and Youngchan pushed him to stop him from beating her. Youngchan also has no problem asserting himself, he just did so after Hyunsoo told him to stop, and many other times when they were doing it, he reached the top of his career by being able to assert himself when needed.
If we're pointing out technicalities about the language here, what she says is that she guesses he "takes after your father in the way i most wanted you to avoid."
When people say "taking after your father" people say it when they want to point out that you're becoming, resembling, or inheriting traits of your dad. Which the point I made is that no one wants to hear that when the dad is a POS.
But hey, if your interpretation is different that's fine idc.
As for your second point, ok it wasn't TECHNICALLY self-defense because he wasn't the one in danger but it's a collective understanding that it's still self-defense when you have a reasonable understanding that someone is about to be hurt if you didn't defend them from the aggressor.
(IDK why we're mentioning this. Or why we're debating these technicalities. I'm not Youngchan's lawyer. )
Also, as for your last point, Youngchan clearly has no issues being assertive when he needs to. Obviously.
But I was just making conjectures about how IRL people that get blow back after defending themselves from an abuser can sometimes have doubts in the future when they defend themselves or assert their boundaries. ╮(￣▽￣)╭
But i understand i didn't fully phrase it like that. It wasn't really a commentary on what happened in the manhwa really.
Nonetheless, the conclusion here is that abuse is truly a wave of misery on anyone and everyone that has lived with it. A.k.a. it sux & dad's a colossal turd.
I completely agree with you, true. Well said. And going back to Youngchan, he has had to put up a friendly demeanour and personality so as to not scare people away based on his figure. His fear of if he doesn’t put up the effort to seem affable people avoid and fear him has been a consequence of the sister’s understandable avoidance of him. And also a consequence of everyone’s irrational fear of him due to his physique when he isn’t smiling??? And he feels weary and scared that he will end up alone and people won’t accept him if he doesn’t keep it up.
Wait no, I disagree with you on the self defence part, it just wasn’t that at all. He protected his sis from being beaten.
Yeah that's a foul comment from mom there.
He was a kid back then and a victim of abuse.
What he needed was a firm reminder that his sister's fears are valid because that isn't the first male figure in HER life to show violence. She's just picking up on patterns.
Unfortunately, even if it was in self-defense.
Youngchan needed guidance on making sure that he doesn't repeat that cycle of violence especially now he feels he has power for once in his life.
Again, unfortunately, the only male figure in HIS life is also not the best example for great power, great responsibility.
What he did NOT need on top of that is to be told, in my humble opinion, that he's becoming his father who is a serial cheater and abuser...
I assume mom just didn't have the capacity for forethought given her condition. But still man that sux.
If he were real, that is some baggage you're going to carry with you for the rest of your life every time you assert yourself even in the most minute ways.
That dad can suck a fat turd for all this bs honestly. (╬￣皿￣)凸