I agree with you. This is such a sensitive topic. No matter what a person do i do not think there is a correct answer. Resently a friend confided in me that they had a miscarage and i really didn't know what to do or say,... what shoul have i done?
I tried to express condolences and to cheer the person, but it is not ok to say it the same as for a dead person and i am not sure if i conveyed my consern and get welk wishes well enough. And i felt like the dummest person in dthe world not able to express what i would liked to
Sometimes simply being there for them is what matters. When my mom died, I didn't really appreciate all the people looking at me with pity and all the somber atmosphere going around, like when I got back to school and everyone in the room would go quiet because they didn't know how to approach me. There really is no right or wrong way to comfort someone grieving as you mentioned, but it does help if they can feel that they can still go on with life, and that they're not alone. They know people around them would not understand exactly what they're going through and they don't have to. In our culture, it's even normal to have small parties during a wake, nothing disrespectful, but more like a celebration of life sort of thing in memory of the person who passed which also helps with the family not dwell too much on the sadness and appreciate more of the time that they did spend with them when they were alive, that sort of thing.
I am really sorry for your mom, may her memory be bright (sorry this is what we say here i am not sure how exactly it is in English).
And as you say it is hard for everyone some show it some don't but everyone is hurt. I hooe there is a atleast 1 person everyone can rekay on in such difficult times.
And i hope in the story they have a second healty and cute baby :) and bring joy and happiness
that some of the comments didn't like the way the ML's family was acting around the MC, but IMO that's just their way of cheering up the couple, like removing them from the zone, sort of. It's not like they are being insensitive, but sometimes it's better to not remind someone about their sadness by diverting their mind to something else, i.e making fun of them and in the dad's way scolding them for being late. Believer it or not, some people find it awkward when they bring the mood down due to their situation, like they'd rather not go to a function rather than have everyone fussing over them etc.