Anyway i understand the mc the way he is, i mean he himself a self made sucssesful and build himself up, and if someone try to commit suicied in front of my car, i'd be pissed. But still it is ignorance as hell to yell at someone else's hardship and distress to suck it up and swallow, it just i hope he more considered at choosing words to someone (not fully kind like a angle but just not causing someone hurt or distateful in the feeling) and he can be cold, wit, and cautious but still the words his said shouldnt be unecessaraly hurtful.
Like not people pleasing like the ML, i guess he lost himself up or his guard down to be kind enough in his teammates and with his ex that he got betrayed by them and ex
I kinda agree with you but I can tell the author gave him that trait to make his character more realistic. There are, after all, plenty real life people with "suck it up" attitude just like him. Specially in the yaoi genre where ukes usually tend to be very soft hearted, empathetic, emotional and sensitive. I guess they wanted to do something different. He has his flaws but maybe by the end of it, he'll realise and come around!
some nuances get lost in translation just to pop in and say that for some context as to why the dialogue comes off like that
This is why I like story like this the main character is not like other generic character out there that is always kind and angel like being, I like it when characters has some nuance in their morals and along the way I'll able to witness their development not just the plot but their characters, and I think the author won't fuck this up (cuz I think it's already finished and I haven't seen negative feedback regarding the mc) .
Anyways I hope you and your friend are doing alright and in a safe and loving environment
This can also be a factor, I wish I could read and understand Korean cuz there are words or phrases that will lost some context or meaning in English on what it's originally intended
I kinda agree with u but also disagree. I think he's like that cause of the environment he was raised i, his personality and age. Take siblings as an example, u and ur sibling can be born in the same family, same house, same environment but still have different personalites. You might be the type of person who is independent and can face problems without help but that doesnt mean ur sibling can do the same. On the flip side, ur sibling feels more emotionally and cares more of others while u urself have very little care of what people think and is emotionally stunded. Also i kinda understand why hee chan still cant emphasize that much to the kid.When u went through enough shit u start to lose ur sense of emphaty, its still there but its conditioned to certain types of people. Ive personally can relate to hee chan on this one, i was abused emotionally by my family too much that at one point in my life i couldnt care what happen to someone especially my family but the more futher away that person's relationship was to me, i cared just a little bit more since they kinda had no dealings to what happen to me.
Yeah u r right, some translation can get lost in the context and come out of as rude.
Thank you, me and her still try our best to get profesional help. and i do like the mc it just something he said triggered me and annoyed me but the story itself is still enjoyable and im hoping to see his charater development
This is just the phycology nerd in me and i really like how on point someone like the ml may act in this type of situation. Tho the fact that he is starting to understand the kids side of the experience is just mwah. CHARACTER DEVELOPMENT(๑•ㅂ•)و✧
What shocking me the most that "the sibling" is like my lil sister (5 years apart), we both grow up with abusive parents too she grew more like u bc she had an experience of sexual harrasment and bullied by the boys in her school, me and her had somewhat same experience like that but she, now, become more like hee chan and u. While me becoming people pleaser and like i mentioned before. So yeah i understand but then thats what me and my lil sister always fight bc sometimes bc shes more logical person, she literarly like hee chan and she said she doesnt wanna live the way i live, it hurts but that is what i push her to bc i indeed dont want her to become like me.
My abusive parents now become old they are not they were used to be, so as i grow up i always think of a reason why they were like that and even though they were abusive they were still tried their best to give me what i want and to provied me like spoiled me to the rotten (tho.. in not the best way). So now we have love and hate relationship, my lil sis still careless bout them while i still take pity on them and try my best for them (even tho i still somehow cant take their affection and keep on cringey whenver it is)
I hope u live ur life happily and loving enviorment.
I hope ur life becomes better too. Also if ur sis might have a chance of being exactly like me, i think she just needs a one on one personal discussion with u to improve ur relationship. Im the type of person who hates beating around the bush and understand better when someone talks to me straight foward. Maybe it might work for ur sister. Only if u think it works ofc, this works for me so i cant say it wilk work for her. Good luck and take care of ur self love (づ￣ ³￣)づ
I feel sorry about you went through.
But my above line is a catch . It covers both your aspects.
See , I'm sorry about what you went through and what your friend went through and it seems after effects made it more worse.
But I'm just sorry , I can't feel your pain. Because I never went through this.
I have no gauze to measure your past sufferings.
Its not like I don't want to but I can't relate how hard I try.
Same thing happened with heechan. He's occupying kid's body ,to some extent he can understand kid's emotions but not fully , melting process is incomplete.
Heechan never went through this. How hard he try he can never get it completely. His years of being alive molded him into someone's else that is who he's right now . This thought process , morals , understanding of things is completely different.
Its like when you hear someone lost someone close in their family first thing you say is sorry , but do you really mean it ? No not me until they're very close to me , I don't feel genuinely bad , it's not like they were close to me , heck I don't even know their face.That sorry came out of instinct . You can say I'm a bit unemphatic in this regard.
I apologise I took your example , but this became an Easy thing to explain considering your past .
Hope this answered your queries a bit.
I DONT LIKE the mc on how apathetic he is bc even tho they have the same family issues but the mc has someone (his uncle) and the enviorment that give him a hope and support him to overcome his issues. While the kid has no one he can depend to (well the kid has his cousin's husband (?) That seems genuienly concern of him, but i guess the way he react he himself struggling), and i hate when the mc said the bullying is a bareable thing to do (when u already have so much burden with unbareable guilty looking at ur mom and u have to suck it up with a burden of bullying and threath at school is definetly can cause mentally distrub).
No one in any shape of form can still have healthy spirit and mental if they put in such a situation (i was bullied and my friend has a divorced parents with financial problem, ive grown with panic and anxeity disorder with suciadal thoughts, while my friend have grown with bipolar disorder).
When the ML explain type of person who r gonna grow up such apethetic, it suits the mc the most (well not "literaly the most" cus he did have lil emptahy but zero consideration of others). And when one of his employe (orange hair) said "not anyone can be like u", i really hoping the mc has charather development and be more considered of others feeling, especially the kid. But 44 chapter still his thoughts of the kid dont change (well change lil bit cus of the kid's mom).
But i do like him lil bit cus somehow he is such a inspirasing monotone person but still his charather flaws annoyed me.