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Yeah. We can't judge just by considering our own point of view. Many factors enganged with many reasons. Still I can't help my toxic mind, will it be different if SHE is a HE? Will a HE also treated as a mouth to feed?
I get what you mean. Here not to argue that at all.
I do understand how grandpa couldn’t just have endured and find ways to raise his daughter but that’s easier said than done. I’ve literally seen homeless people manage to raise their kids but the difference of how a person lived, experience, and think in life really matters. Not everybody can be strong or have faith in themselves. Not everybody can be confident or decisive. And not everybody can see the hope and possibility of the future. Grandpa really thought his daughter could’ve lived a better life being adopted overseas. For his daughter, her fathers love might be enough, but his father doesn’t think his love nor anything he can give will be enough for her. Or you could say he loved her too much that giving her a better life immediately is better than having her endure the hardships of poverty they currently were at the time. “Oh but when they were already living well enough to have more children, why couldn’t he just find and get her back?” Again, easier said than done. She might’ve been already adopted and could no longer get the rights to get her back or he might’ve been ashamed to even get her back after abandoning her and thought it was better that she would forget the father that gave her up (We don’t know the real reason). Alas,
a father’s love still won and even though he might’ve fooled himself that he was okay, deep inside he wasn’t and kept yearning for his daughter. It’s not about forgiving what he had done to his daughter, it’s about understanding the reason why he’d done it. It might not be acceptable to all but knowing how what he’d been through when he left his daughter is also important.