i dont know how people hate taeju, i get there's some things he could have communicated be...

You act like 99% of yaoi don't have rape in it, they're all rapist that's why I said in yaoi standards. Rape became part of the yaoi plot wether you like it or not

I don't think so, fortunately much more than 1% of yaoi don't have rape.
I've personally compiled some of my personal favorites here https://www.mangago.zone/home/mangalist/635473/

then, among the rapey yaoi, you have various shades of red and orange. Rathing than green, which I personally consider as "healthy" (no rape, no psychological abuse, manipulation or other toxic behaviour, and good communication and independence), there can be various shades of red.

(Personally I'd see current TJ as orange, with possible evolutions towards red, orange or yellow. To reach yellow, there'd need to be little enough possessiveness than EH is fully free to have a relationship with however he wants wether romantic or otherwise and full independence)

*that EH * whoever

(and yes despite the redness I quite enjoy TJ's character, for a bunch of reasons)

It might not be 99% of it but the majority of yaoi are. If I judged teaju simply as a character than yeah he's definitely a red flag but that's not what I did, compared to many seme out there he's much better he's bad behavior is not based on some traumatic childhood I've already explained everything in my first comment read the line

And this is not about defending teaju saying all he did was right, it's for all those people that think we all should hate teaju that there are reasons why we love him

a TON of yaoi doesn't include rape.

Cause it's not 99%?? There's plenty of yaoi which don't include rape. I mean you might say that because 99% of the yaoi's you read have rape in it. And it must be your type with how you defend it lmao. Don't just go off based on what you read or know solely.