I think in their case they don’t like his personality but after seeing him defend their daughter like that I think they’ll come around, plus it’s alright to want the best for your kids while not imposing it on them. As you can see she ignores her dad and grandpa since her mum and grandma are on her side. They even didn’t like ML till they knew of rourou being his son and ML basically abandoned his fam and formed a stronger relationship with them.
I think they don’t focus on her emotions because that’s not who the character is, she’s stoic and knows what she wants. Trusting that, the fact that she gave him a chance and later on decided to marry him is a huge deal, she wasn’t influence by her parents or anything. It’s just their dynamic, she’s similar to her mum I think.
İ am sorry but lingwei and her family treats muqinq so bad his mother is a bitch and deserves but when we first see muqing he always endure the shitty treatment I wish him so much happiness