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Literally this. He communicated very clearly, though it seems he has internalized his own homophobia. I wouldn't say he hates gay people but he doesn't want to be perceived as one bc he's afraid of the possibility of being treated differently.
Huh? I don’t know why the bisexual seme of the second couple is getting a ton of hate? I like both semes. They’re honest and consciously put in effort for a healthier human-human relationship with their partners. The bisexual seme may have wanted for a physical-only relationship (as healthy as that can get) but he was honest about it and honest about his reasons for it. He was aware of his shortcomings and constantly tries to remind his partner about it so as not to go into a relationship with absurd expectations and be unnecessarily hurt. It’s also good that his partner was the assertive type with enough confidence in himself to be able to complement the problems the seme has told him about. I mean, compare the bisexual seme with the main uke, they both didn’t want to start a serious relationship for roughly about the same reasons - the impossibility of same-sex marriage. However, while main uke ran away from his seme because of it without even explaining himself clearly, the bisexual seme was upfront about it. He clearly had some affections for his partner but he was also thinking about his partner and honest about it when he refused to be in a serious relationship. Just think about main uke’s ex who didn’t even let him know he was bisexual up until he sent him a wedding invitation and tells him that he dated him back then with the full intentions of eventually breaking up. That’s what traumatized uke. At least, for whatever faults bisexual seme had as a lover, he had full respect for his partner as a human. He was not trying to say that he would definitely leave his partner for a woman or even two-time him, he was laying the facts out to his partner - that he, as a person whose opinions and beliefs also matter and must be respected even while not all can and do agree, has currently no plans of ever coming out as being able to date guys for whatever reasons he may have which are perfectly valid as long as he is not deliberately hurting others and yes, there is the possibility that he might date and marry a woman in the future preferably after breaking it up cleanly with his current partner, which is his freedom and right to do so. Or they might stay together and he may even want to come out in the future, it’s his life. He was just being truthful about it so his partner understands perfectly before getting in a relationship with him and not be like his ex who apparently spent their relationship just worrying about his relationships with other people. He didn’t want to deal with a partner who isn’t confident enough to deal with those possibilities, I think. And didn’t he agree eventually when his partner told him that even if they broke up (and not that they really were dating to break up), he could move on fine and even if they have problems in their relationship they can deal with it together as proper couples do.
Honestly, at first I even thought pink-haired guy would be the seme for the second couple since between the two of them, he was the one I didn’t like. He was too aggressive and couldn’t take no for an answer. Do others really have to give you a reason you can accept for not sleeping with you? Can you disregard what reasons they give you just because you can’t accept it? It’s not as if it was his obligation to sleep with you? Isn’t it enough to just not want to? His pushy behavior just really annoyed me. Looking back on it now though, maybe only someone like him who has a strong ego can make the bisexual seme have enough confidence in a serious relationship with him where they won’t just stress and burn each other out of love.