you articulated this so well
I personally disagree, I do sympathize with the uke but he is a bad PARTNER, not a bad person, but a horrible partner. I won't say the brown-hair dude was perfect or what not but the most part he tried to be understanding where he could. Both character are fictitious so I won't dive too far in, but once you read the Raws, you'll see that the uke is the one at fault, trauma or not, hurting someone who cares for you to that extent can not be justified.
I agree
This is all the more reason you should not date someone when yk your not ready to be fully committed. Yes, he’s going through shit but it doesn’t justify sleeping with someone who hurt you multiple times. He’s a horrible partner and also jealousy is a part of everyone since people have insecurities literally the uke gets jealous of a girl the Brown hair is talking to and decides not to communicate. How is he supposed to throw away his doubts when the uke is calling another man’s name and sneaking out to meet the black hair and not communicate….. . The brown hair isn’t that impatient the brown hair is more patient than you think although the uke messed up and said some things he was still patient with him and tried to understand that he is still changing from a toxic relationship. The brown hair can’t completely change the uke. it’s up to the uke to play a part in that change which he keeps straying away from.
I’ll say this as kindly as I can. I have the same condition as the uke, I’m in a relationship. I had to learn communication from the ground up- but lemme keep this simple. You expect a guy mentally abused to communicate things? I get human expectations can be really high but you most likely have never even been close to someone as the uke so you won’t understand how these ‘common sense’ actions aren’t taught to him. He has witness his previous partner cheat on him over and over he finds that ‘normal’ but a part of him also finds it not- that’s why he feels ‘disgusted’. When all your partners ‘friends’ are ones you f*ck on the down low you’re gonna be wired to think the same with your future partners. On top of all of this both parties are horrible at communicating- realistically when you realise someone has gone through an abusive relationship you ask the following “what happened. Tell me the whole story” or “what makes you so dependable- what did he do” the ml doesn’t do that. I get not forcing someone into speaking but even if they don’t wish to discuss it you’re gonna have to say it so they know the intent and that opens the window for a discussion when they’re ready. I don’t excuse cheating but you cannot blame the uke for every single thing. It’s not an excuse but and explanation and one you needa learn.
First, I wanna say that, of course, cheating is bad. We don’t like cheating. But the uke isn’t cheating because he feels dissatisfied or bored in his relationship with brown-hair, he goes back because black-hair, despite being just as emotionally abusive as his grandma and dad, was the only one we could depend on after growing up without anything, especially love, and even if black-hair doesn’t love uke like brown-hair, he manipulated uke into believing he did by taking advantage of his childhood trauma. And the moment he felt even a bit abandoned by brown-hair, he reverted back to the person who he’s been with for SEVEN years.
And honestly, I love brown-hair too, but he’s not the most understanding man since he’s constantly getting jealous over the fact that uke might still have lingering feelings after escaping an abusive, dependent, longterm relationship. And he’s always throwing his doubts on the uke, who already has burdens he’s trying to fix.
Like, anyone can see the uke really loves brown-hair, he’s thriving and happy and being creative, and those lingering thoughts about black-hair are normal in someone who’s escaped a severely abusive relationship WITH lingering childhood trauma.
So, I don’t think the uke is a bad person, I think he’s someone trying to mentally heal himself and surrounded by the most impatient men possible.