First off

I've been 24 years with my partner and we never had this kind of arguments. And it really concern me that so many people see it as something normal.

I need your secret cause God damn

If you have dealt with a neurodivergent person before, you will realise that Dojae's behaviour is realistic, and the problems being portrayed are realistic too

It doesn't make it any less annoying though

But I have. Your mistakes are

1. Treating "neurodivergent" as a kind of catch all category. (When I used it I was being sarcastic.) I don't pretend to be an expert but they are no less varied. There are certainly earlier scenes in which some of Dojae's actions and thinking could be considered autistic (as I understand it, to get specific) but show this narrative to any professional and they would have *a ton* of negative critiques. Because....

2. The uglier mistake is seeing straight forward red flags of abusive behaviour and marking it as a mental issue of whatever kind. Being controlling and possessive, trying to cut off your partner from their friends and supportive network, making them feely guilty smiling at other people, are all signs of a manipulative partner who may become abusive. *That* is what it realistically portrays...which I already stated. It is more than "annoying".

For those who are interested I recently finished a book called "Why Does He Do That?: Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men" by Lundy Bancroft. It is long lol but the language is simple and you can just read the first chapter where it debunks a lot of myths.

To anyone reading this: I'm here to enjoy all the nonsense BL like anyone else. But I want us to be able to recognise what we are reading for what it is. Anyone who comes to you IRL and tries to control any aspect of your life but ESPECIALLY major stuff like where you live, who you live with, who you are friends with and tells you it's because they are just in love with you or because they are "neurodivergent" is LYING to you (and maybe themselves but mostly to you). Run and just buy a chapter of Jinx for your danger thrills.

In a normal person, you could definitely say that the person is being deliberately manipulative, but not in a neurodivergent person.
They are not being intentionally manipulative because they do not comprehend their emotions to be so. That doesn't mean they do not come off as manipulative though. It just means that they are not doing it deliberately.
It's like when a 4 year old child says something mean to a stranger. They do not comprehend that what they said was wrong, but that does not make them right.
It is now the responsibility of their handler, or partner as in Euntak's case, to put their foot down and make them see what they did wrong and why it was wrong, which we can all see that he is doing.
It takes a ton of patience to deal with those group of people, and greater still to be in a continous romantic relationship with them.
If Dojae was not neurodivergent then I would have definitely agreed with you on how he is manipulative and how you should run away, but he is and that makes a ton of difference.
I will definitely advise though, that if you are not mentally strong enough or have tons of patience, then don't put yourself through the ordeal of being in a relationship with such people, because they require loads of work and patience

You have a very mean, prejudiced, backward idea of what it means to be neurodivergent and you hide it poorly because you're not as smart as you think you are. (In fact, you aren't at all.) My last comment.