Some of yall don't know what Risk Aware Consensual Kink is and it SHOWS

dancinbutterfly October 8, 2023 5:19 am

Hi people! Info time! welcome to the wild and wonderful world of Risk Aware Consensual Kink.
When two people agree(consent) to do something that they both know is dangerous and they are both adults and they both are getting something out of it, and they are all informed of the risks they are taking? That my friends, is when you move out of Safe, Sane and Consensual Kink(SSC) and into Risk Aware Consensual Kink(RACK). If you get hurt when you engage in RACK? WELP! That's unfortunate! You knew what you were doing when you got involved! But that isn't abuse! Abuse is when one person in a position of power harms someone in a position of less power without their consent! The CONSENT aspect of RACK is what prevents this from being abusive so long as all the parties involve keep agreeing to the play. Is it safe? Sometimes it is, sometimes it isn't, but everyone knows what they're getting into! Is it sane? Ehhhh, depends. Is it consensual? YES! Does that mean that everyone is making good choices? LOL NO! People are out there making stupid sex decisions all the time! Welcome to adulthood get a helmet.

But the fact that everyone has INFORMED CONSENT keeps it from falling into the cycle of abuse. If you are CONFUSED about what makes a relationship abusive? I encourage you to check out the Power and Control Wheel of Abusive Relationships.

https://www.thehotline.org/identify-abuse/power-and-control/

Stay safe out there!

Responses
    Aj-The King October 8, 2023 6:32 am

    Thank you! Everyones making the dom to be a complete monster and I dont like it! (╬ ̄皿 ̄)凸

    Mioro October 8, 2023 3:28 pm

    This is true, however most people here are angry at the dom for the lack of communication. There's a rlly complicated situation when we involved an unexperienced partner, mainly bc you are the one (parcially) responsible to inform them what everything means. In this case the dom isn't doing that at all, he said he wanted to involved violence, yet he never specified, he also doesn't compromise in what type of kinks could work for both of them.
    And the most important thing, even if they both agree to it, the Dom usually needs to keep a close eye on the sub in case things happen and they are unable to communicate the safeword so its not so much of "well its unfortunate that u got hurt"

    I agree that with the play he did w the random sub is not abuse, thats 100% RACK, but the relationship with the MC is just unsafe and dangerous

    inori October 8, 2023 5:12 pm

    This is why I love the comments section.