1. yes it is still play, people really do want to go that intense, why do you think fetishes such as scat and fisting are a thing 2. yes it is cheating since one half of the relationship clearly says and feels like that is cheating, people may have different beliefs on what is considered cheating but when someone in a relationship feels like their boundaries set for cheating have been breached then it's cheating hope I've made sense ╥﹏╥
1. yes it is still play, people really do want to go that intense, why do you think fetishes such as scat and fisting are a thing
2. yes it is cheating since one half of the relationship clearly says and feels like that is cheating, people may have different beliefs on what is considered cheating but when someone in a relationship feels like their boundaries set for cheating have been breached then it's cheating
hope I've made sense ╥﹏╥