There are challenges and also benefits to dating autistic people but it takes done adjustm...

lilac September 12, 2023 12:39 am

There are challenges and also benefits to dating autistic people but it takes done adjustments from both parties. I love how this story illustrates that.

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    Emihue September 12, 2023 12:51 am

    Huh did it state one of them has autism

    lady eboshi September 12, 2023 1:00 am
    Huh did it state one of them has autism Emihue

    it's a headcanon

    sh1tlord September 12, 2023 1:26 am

    the author hasn't specially said "dojae is autistic" but the very specific ways dojae interacts with the world is very akin to some common autistic behaviours & experiences. which means, yeah, it's not official but it's 'something along those lines'. i'm also 1000% agreeing with OP that dojae is autistic. i'm autistic, and i find myself relating to the very specific way he analyses the world around him, his way of needing total verbal clarity, and his disconnect/difficulty with social situations allistic people seem just just intuit. it can be very frustrating.

    lilac September 12, 2023 4:04 am
    the author hasn't specially said "dojae is autistic" but the very specific ways dojae interacts with the world is very akin to some common autistic behaviours & experiences. which means, yeah, it's not offi... sh1tlord

    Yes,same

    lilac September 12, 2023 4:07 am
    the author hasn't specially said "dojae is autistic" but the very specific ways dojae interacts with the world is very akin to some common autistic behaviours & experiences. which means, yeah, it's not offi... sh1tlord

    Yes, the story is a great way to help neurotypicals understand a bit of what it’s like

    Emihue September 12, 2023 4:53 am

    Literally this is like the fourth manga I see people stating character has autism when there’s no Indiction of it lol it’s not good to keep saying so many characters are d autistic just because

    Emihue September 12, 2023 4:53 am
    Yes, the story is a great way to help neurotypicals understand a bit of what it’s like lilac

    No it’s not Lmao be so for real

    Emihue September 12, 2023 4:55 am
    the author hasn't specially said "dojae is autistic" but the very specific ways dojae interacts with the world is very akin to some common autistic behaviours & experiences. which means, yeah, it's not offi... sh1tlord

    So many of those things are not just autistic Traits it could be adhd it could be anxiety or literally nothing d at all it’s just odd to keep labeling people autistic when not specified as such

    lady eboshi September 12, 2023 3:56 pm
    So many of those things are not just autistic Traits it could be adhd it could be anxiety or literally nothing d at all it’s just odd to keep labeling people autistic when not specified as such Emihue

    or it could be autism and an interesting headcanon. it could also be adhd, anxiety or just the disorder the author said the character had. it's just the fans' imagination anyway you don't need to be so paranoid about it

    Emihue September 12, 2023 5:13 pm
    or it could be autism and an interesting headcanon. it could also be adhd, anxiety or just the disorder the author said the character had. it's just the fans' imagination anyway you don't need to be so paranoid... lady eboshi

    Paranoid Lmao I don’t think you know what that word means either

    lady eboshi September 12, 2023 6:05 pm
    Paranoid Lmao I don’t think you know what that word means either Emihue

    i was waiting for an argument, but i think you're just trying to be annoying.
    and yes, believing everything is being an attack on a community is a type of paranoia.

    lilac September 12, 2023 10:31 pm

    people,I want to clarify that many of the people I love most in the world are autistic, so Im not "attacking" anyone. I dont think all autistic traits are negative. There are qualities autistic people have that I WISH ,most neurotypicals had. In my family there are a few adults that have undiagnosed autism, and kids with diagnosed autism. Many people diagnosed now would not have been years ago. However,we are still here, misunderstood and I think it's great that characters like us(head cannon or not) are being represented because it should lead to more understanding. We are not all the same but we are all deserving of love.

    Emihue September 13, 2023 12:58 am
    people,I want to clarify that many of the people I love most in the world are autistic, so Im not "attacking" anyone. I dont think all autistic traits are negative. There are qualities autistic people have that... lilac

    I understand sorry for being defensive I work with d autistic children and adults and it irks me to see people misuse the label. Or even just the work paranoia as an attack is pretty fucked up thing to say. But I know representation matters and wanting to find an identifying characteristics is understandable

    Emihue September 13, 2023 1:00 am
    i was waiting for an argument, but i think you're just trying to be annoying. and yes, believing everything is being an attack on a community is a type of paranoia. lady eboshi

    You using mental illness as an insult is pretty gross but if that’s how you roll I rather not even continue to feed into this take care

    lady eboshi September 13, 2023 6:41 am
    You using mental illness as an insult is pretty gross but if that’s how you roll I rather not even continue to feed into this take care Emihue

    if you don't know the difference between an insult and being accused of something (having paranoid behavior) then i wonder how you work with people, like my god, go touch some grass

    Emihue September 13, 2023 1:38 pm
    if you don't know the difference between an insult and being accused of something (having paranoid behavior) then i wonder how you work with people, like my god, go touch some grass lady eboshi

    It seems like you have zero clue what you’re tlking about Lmao go touch grass you say Lmaoooo I don’t even think going outside would help you you’re too far gone idiot

    lady eboshi September 13, 2023 1:45 pm
    It seems like you have zero clue what you’re tlking about Lmao go touch grass you say Lmaoooo I don’t even think going outside would help you you’re too far gone idiot Emihue

    alright so you're really just being annoying (now that's an insult)
    bye bye

    Willow September 14, 2023 3:50 am
    the author hasn't specially said "dojae is autistic" but the very specific ways dojae interacts with the world is very akin to some common autistic behaviours & experiences. which means, yeah, it's not offi... sh1tlord

    I think what he has is Alexithymia

    sh1tlord September 16, 2023 2:12 am

    this topic became so toxic so quickly. first and foremost, not all autistic people have the same behaviors. there's a variety of behaviors, and they're not always present. secondly, many of the people online stating they're "professionals that work with autistic patients" are both lying and/or have & perpetrate harmful information about autism. that's not to say there aren't honest people that do help the autism community, but if we're talking ABA, that's widely considered a form of torture, much like conversion "therapy." it's always these ABA "professionals" that try to convince low needs autistic adults that they aren't really autistic, and that we're all self-diagnosed (which wouldn't be a sin to begin with) bc of a "fad," and when anyone defends themself with having a professional diagnosis, they're told all the screening was wrong. so maybe, just maybe, autistic people can relate to characters that might not canonically be autistic while having some behaviors that align with commonly identified behaviors. but also, given that there are millions of characters, maybe more than one can be autistic? is that really so shocking and upsetting? relating to non-malicious traits is harmless. why relegate us to relating to only abed nadir, doctor murphy, and lawyer woo?

    anyway. @Willow it's possible! that's a very interesting condition.