I agree and disagree with this comment. Like you are completely right their relationship is strange and in some aspects toxic as the desperately dependent on each other but it seems you are blaming JH to much. He’s just a teenage boy who wanted to experience high-school at his fullest without any weird rumours spreading which made him distanced himself but that dosnt mean he didn’t care about YW anymore. He’s feeling of jealousy is completely valid in my opinion, it’s like normal since they have been together for that long, JH is obviously happy that YW was able to fit in but he was jealous because he felt he wasn’t needed in YW life anymore. They both have serious attachment issues anyways. I just feel like some people don’t realise how much JH has been going through, he’s experience isn’t as traumatic as YW but the is suffering with internal guild. He feels it’s his fault that YW got bullied as he wasn’t there to protect him but then he started to be overly protective which is also doing no good. Also I feel like they are both stopping each other from growing cause YW depend to much on JH and JH is to overprotective with reinforces their toxic relationship. I also feel like they don’t necessarily have to separate to be able to establish a healthy relationship, they just need to set boundaries. YW should start being more independent and speak up for himself as he cannot depend on other forever( this may happens very gradually because he needs to gain confidence first) and JH needs to step back and not always intervene because he’s not helping YW as much as he thinks he is. ( except if it’s like physical fights or some ). In conclusion they both just need to go to a good therapist and I think I need to go to one to cause reading this is really doing something to me .
Yes agree with both comments above!!
I swear to God seeing what happened to YW and getting a chance to see everything from JH's perspective is so jarring because while YW is suffering throughout Middle School JH was living his best life completely unaware of what YW was going through.
I'm going to be completely honest seeing their relationship through JH'S eyes is so sad because in the beginning he felt like YW was this precious little brother who he would always be there for and eventually over time their relationship on his side started to feel like a burden. Like just thinking about it makes me want to cry.
And I can 100% understand why JH felt like that and it also puts into a greater context that their relationship being codependent has always been that way. they have always been in a codependent relationship. And now what JH said to nari makes a lot more sense because he told her that he was the reason why YW is not growing. And he's right because it is his fault that YW has not grown since middle school. The fact that when JH saw that YW was doing perfectly fine without him he felt jealous and kind of dissatisfied is proof that their relationship was not healthy from the get-go.
But as the reader I'm so attached to them both and I want them both to stay friends but Haesol is right. they need space from each other because they cannot be near each other and just have a normal relationship. it's going to go back into being a codependent one the moment something bad happens.
Like the more this goes on my emotions are telling me I want them to stay friends they have to stay together but then my head is telling me they need to stay apart just for a while because if they stay together they're going to end up hurting each other more than helping. (╥﹏╥)
UGGH THIS IS SO CONFLICTING. (ノ｀Д´)ノ彡┻━┻