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Showering you with gifts ….. https://betterfamilytherapy.com/blog/toxic-romantic-relationships-am-i-in-one?format=amp

Maryland therapists say you may be in a toxic relationship if you experience these.
1.) Love Bombing- The beginning

This “perfect partner” individual may participate in what is called “Love Bombing.” This can consist of showing excessive attention, showering someone with compliments, and/or excessive gift giving.
So what is the point of love bombing early on the relationship? Often individuals who participate in love bombing understand that this can potentially “trap” someone into the relationship. It may seem that the relationship is all butterflies and rainbows in the beginning, but eventually there is a point where the love bombing stops and you see the person for who they actually are.

What is dangerous about love bombing, is that some people may be more likely to stay in the relationship even if things get bad because they want the “old partner” back. Unfortunately, the love bomber was never the partner’s authentic self.

—— https://health.clevelandclinic.org/love-bombing/
What Is Love Bombing?
This form of psychological and emotional abuse is often disguised as excessive flattery

“Initially, you might feel safe, secure and swept off your feet because grand gestures are a self-esteem boost and make you feel important and desired,” says psychologist Alaina Tiani, PhD. “But the love bomber’s ultimate goal is not just to seek love, but to gain control over someone else. Over time, those grand gestures are an effort to manipulate you and make you feel indebted to and dependent on them.”

That was unnecessary. Like some ppl are just sweet and like giving gifts

No it was necessary. Yes some ppl are sweet and like giving gifts. Unfortunately, that isn’t Heesung and Dan doesn’t like it.

Heesung has been in 3 chapters so far. And the first one really does not count. 

Over-gifting that is unwanted…. 
— it is not love and care in this case. It is kind of like stalking. If I was treating like that - it would turned me off to the person to where I would avoid them. 


“It is codependency, the extreme of over-giving, can be seen as a form of control.” <— this is from an article. It is not love or care. It is suffocating. <—- an article…just my words I think. 
Dan is suffocating with it.—



Heesung = control, manipulative (at the end of the chapter) and what potato said. 

We only got to see a little of Heesung. Heesung has signs of a narcissist and an abusive person. Potato sees through him. Look at his face when he learns they live together. He is not a green flag.

Yes I would want you to be with someone sweet and like to giving you gifts. I want you to have that fantasy. However, I don’t want you to fantasy it with a narcissist and abusive person who would stop after the first stage.
And you have emotional damage for it. Heesung isn’t just being sweet and giving him gifts. He is going over the top. I wanted you to see the signs for you to protect yourself. To know a genuine person who is sharing gifts and being sweet vs an abusive person who will only harm you.

Bro.. who gives a fuck?? He's giving g everyone gifts too. Idgaf a man that showers you with gifts is a green flag for me. I like being spoiled. Not every person like who gets gifts to ppl is a love bomber. He's rich I'm not surprised he likes giving everyone gifts. Like stop hating

Oh, sweet summer child…. That comment didn’t fully correspond with what I wrote you. What hate? The aggressiveness is in your comments. If you read my comments I gave a fuck about you. I gave a fuck about the story. Thank you for being disgusting and dismissing the gift I was sharing with you. Most would be thankful.

Stop hating. Stop taking my words out of context because you want to see him as a green flag when the story is saying else. The story is hating Heesung. Potato is hating Heesung. Heesung’s actions are hating Heesung. Love bomber ≠ being spoiled.

You are hating me for pointing it out. There is no hate. Stop falsely accusing me. You didn’t read my comments because I said there are people who give gifts who are not love bombers. Twice. My first time was my second sentence using your wording. You are repeating my words like I didn’t say them. If you read my comment you would never written that comment.