They mean that him being an adult withnhis life together and being abused by some kid graduating highschool is stupid. Because average people can see his bullshit from an outside perspective but the lawyer whos supposed to be smart cant.
Obviously, watching abuse and experiencing it and completely different i dont think the person who wrote this is right. Im just explaining
Will Heeseo willingly listen everything? Kid got abandonment issue and would just come with the conclusion that Taekyung wants to separate himself from Heeseo. And then it would just repeat his suicide attempts again. I agree that having sex is not a better option but talking ain't taking Heeseo and Taekyung's relationship any further either cuz guilt and gaslighting do the magic.
You confuse sex with rape. If we replace the words you say with rape then it sounds ridiculous right? Criticising a victim for trying to comprimise to make their experience less violent is insane considering the fact that Taekyung is clearly not mentally strong enough to deal with heeseo in any other way. Also, im sure Taekyung is worried that Heeseo will harm himself OR HIM if he says no. Youre looking at this from an outside perspective, the mental challenges Taekyung is going through to give Heeseo some sort of support imust be unbelievably difficult. He's trying to shoulder everything because he feels theres no other option, give him a break.
My point exactly. He doesn't knows what to do when meeting someone like Heeseo. He is trying to help Heeseo but in a very wrong way. Like the dude tried everything he could, but Heeseo is just way too stubborn to even listen anything. He will run away like last time and then do something dangerous. And lack of mental healthcare in South Korea is ridiculous ngl so prolly he doesn't even know whom to turn to when things are going this way. Haa poor Taekyung.
Ok I'll tell you my experience in handling with my dad and mom who use guilt-traps along with gaslighting. Talking doesn't stands a chance. Heeseo will always come to that conclusion. Bet he will even try to harm the new lady that has come in. And there's no misunderstandings cuz Heeseo knows Taekyung doesn't have any sorts of feelings towards him to begin with and he understands that Taekyung is trying to help him get stabilize and stuffs so he is using the stabilizing as an excuse for most of his abuse on Taekyung. He has fitted that trauma in Taekyung that "If you try to leave me, I'll do something to myself or to you or maybe the ppl around you. So don't try anything funny." dude got like zero to no chances of doing anything. Even if Taekyung taks it out, you think Heeseo will say "I understand what you are saying. But I like you and you have to take care of me too. My mother helped you didn't she?" Now what? There are too many arguments that can be bought up with the method you are suggesting.
How does a grown ass man who is a LAWYER falls for a teenager's gaslighting and manipulation