"I want to focus on school instead of touring the country with you"
HOW IS THAT EMOTIONAL ABUSEEEE?????? I CAN'T TAKE Y'ALL's SHIT ANYMOREEEEEEEE....
THEY HAVE AN ENTIRE CHILDDDDDD
It's not about what he does, but the way he does it. He acts disgusted with the seme all the time.
I feel that if not for the bond they share they wouldn't even be together.
yeah exactly, he always acts like it's a pain in the ass for him to do anything for his husband??
No if it was just that of course it wouldn't be emotional abuse, and maybe that word is too strong, but seriously when you look at their whole history, it's a recurring thing for him to just not really care about Dojin and say hurtful things to him. And in that case I wouldn't have felt that way if it was only because of school but as readers we KNOW that it's also because he didn't listen to Dojin when he was talking about it to him and asking him to come with him, which seems to be a recurring thing since he even thought that he really should stop doing that. I'm sorry but Dojin is not really portrayed as someone he seems to love here??
And also about your other comment, having a child is -sadly- not proof a love, especially to this couple considering how everything happened...
Dojin raped and baby trapped him, things worked out but...he has his flaws too. Hyesung isn't as affectionate due to his upbringing but he shows it in other ways. For example, getting out of his comfort zone and physical affection (a valid form of love.) He's an airhead, as someone with ADHD, not recalling important convos is normal. They have a child, its natural to have your head in the clouds sometimes
I never said its a sign of love, I'm saying him mentioning school and ESPECIALLY Byul is enough reasoning to decline
He said a flat out no, there's still nothing abusive about that, wasn't puking or gauging at the thought
Traveling across the world is a huge ask for a mother and student
You really don't know anything about marriage life. When there's a kid in the frame and you're still studying, those kind of feelings is the least priority. This is how reality couple is. Hyesung is omega, he's only good in math. But for the rest, he has to study a lot.
You don’t know anything about marriage life !
He is clearly not respecting him at all, it's even proven in the chapter, with him blatantly ignoring Dojin when he's talking. His attitude is deliberate and is not a "special condition" since he can act normally towards other people.
He's clearly treating Dojin like shit, let's not pretend. He only goes to him when he needs him, he never cares about him or about his feeling. I'm not even blaming him or anything, since you already explained that Dojin has done all that to him, and he still decided to stay with Dojin, it might not be because of love. Because I don't feel any chemistry between. Now, it's always Dojin showing his care and affection towards him, and the uke (forgot his name) acting all snobbish and cold towards him. (aside from the sex scenes, but it's clearly just to satisfy his needs)
Also, abuse doesn't need to be blatant to be acknowledged, if someone behaves towards you like how the uke behaves towards Dojin, how would you feel?
I'm saying all this because this was tagged as "romance" and there are the pictures of the two leads or the cover, but in fact I don't feel no romance between the two leads.
Again, I'm not blaming either of them.
And... if that is marriage life for you, then that'd be too sad.
I'm saying, you're bullshitting if you say you haven't misheard important information in your life. He wasn't "blatantly ignoring" him.
He's really not...if someone "treated me like that," I wouldn't give a fuck because I don't demand words of affirmation and constant praise
Also, you're using a lot of declarative statements when a lot of this boils down to YOU subjectively misunderstanding their relationship. Fargo has confirmed time and time again that they do love each other
That's a YOU problem, my dear. There's nothing sad or depressing about it.
Man is a social animal, it's not me who said this.
I'll add that different people have different sensibilities. So when I say I don't feel that the uke likes the seme, I'm expressing my opinion. Your opinion is yours, I respect it, we can debate with arguments, but you act as if you hold the absolute truth. Why? Because the author said so? She/he might say whatever she wants, if it doesn't translate in her writing that won't change anything.
You've been using declarative statements like, "He is clearly not...", "it's even proven", etc. Abuse is a heavy accusation and using it loosely like this is very dangerous.
There's a difference between perceiving things incorrectly (yes, perception can be incorrect) and declaring things as the truth. You've gone on a tirade stating that its abusive and how this would be terrible in real life, which goes beyond a cozy little opinion
In my opinion he is abusing him... ^^
Abusing him emotionally. Because in real life this type of behavious is utterly toxic.
Oh pls. That's common in marriage life w/ being a student and a mom at the same time. You know nothing at all.
Ok I must specify that doing it intentionally is toxic, and the reason why I think the uke is doing it intentionally is that for me it doesn't seem like he cares for the seme. And he treats him the worst compared to all the people he's interacted with.
Even if I don't have children, I have my parents and other acquaintances for example. Treating people with respect no matter the hardships you are going through is never too much to ask for. I'm not talking about you or your life I know nothing about.
I get that he is supposed to have a hard time showing his feelings and everything but now it really seems as if he doesn't care and is only with him because of the bond and pheromones, I mean, he even thought "I really should listen to him more when he talks" so at that point it really looks like he simply doesn't give a shit about Dojin except when he needs him to fuck. And Dojin is just too in love to see it or to do anything about it. I would love to have a chapter where Dojin just... reacts to the emotional abuse, he shouldn't just take it and be miserable all the time.