R@PE isn't a "PoV"

Megako-chan August 2, 2023 2:20 am

I have two question to ask to the people that say there is no r@pe in this story.

1. If someone did what this boxer did to Dan in real life (which does happen), do you or do you not think they should be arrested? If while engaging in intercourse, someone expresses that they want to stop because they are in pain, and their partner continues anyway, what do you call that?

2. When men forces themselves women who are dressed in revealing clothing, their PoV will usually be that she was "asking for it by wearing that." Does that erase the fact that she was r@ped?

If you didn't consent to the intercourse, changed your mind during the act, or asked your partner to stop doing something that is making you uncomfortable, and the person continues anyway, THAT IS R@PE.

If you like this story anyway, that's fine. But the problem starts where your minds are so destroyed & desensitised by these acts that you can no longer recognise r@pe. That is very concerning.

Responses
    。゚(゚´Д`゚)゚。 August 2, 2023 2:46 am

    Uhm. How do I say this (sry not the best at explaining ⁄(⁄ ⁄·⁄ω⁄·⁄ ⁄)⁄ ) It is definitely SA and Jaekyung is definitely abusive towards Dan. It's very toxic. Arrest him for sure if you want, nobody is defending him. He's a horrible person ╮(^▽^)╭ however his actions just aren't rape. For one they are in a contract relationship (again I'm not defending him by saying this) the terms of their contract relationship is that Jaekyung give Dan shit loads of money and Dan has to have sex with Jaekyung whenever Jaekyung wants. He's a piece of shit and Dan deserves better (it was funny when he punched him lol) however within the boundaries they have both agreed on in their relationship there is an explicit agreement that all the sex towards Dan is agreed upon by both parties. They did sign up for this. Written consent is a thing in contract relationships it's just harder to show if there is actually implicit consent. (Ahh I'm not too good at explaining) By showing both povs for both Dan and Jaekyung it shows their intentions and thoughts during these moments. Dan is clearly shown to dislike sex but agrees to it. It might be a bit crude to compare it to a deal, but for them that's exactly what it is. They both keep doing this as it is beneficial to the both of them. Of course when Dan showed a clear intention to leave (when the hospital call happened I don't remember the ch. sry Σ(  ̄□ ̄||) ) Jaekyung didn't like this as it went against the contract (he's a dick) however they stopped and Dan went about his business at the hospital. I can understand how the rough nature of Jaekyung when having sex can misconstrue it as rape, but it isn't. He's an asshole, but he does know when to stop. (Still pushes Dan too far sometimes, but it shows from his pov that he just doesn't pick up on Dan's problems most of the time until they actually move in together, this would make sense as outside of their contract relationship, of sex whenever for installments of money, Jaekyung had little reason before to notice or care about these things, it wasn't part of that contract.) (´;ω;`) Hope I explained it well enough. It's important to understand that one can dislike something and still consent to it for other benefits. Doesn't make Jaekyung any less of a jerk.

    Timber August 2, 2023 2:48 am

    We all know the difference. Do you? Real life and fictions are completely different. If all that happens real life, it's SA or r@pe. If it happens in fictions, the reader is free to interpret it any way they want.

    Torakaze August 2, 2023 4:39 am

    I find many things very concerning in your post.
    1. What is the difference between a MMA artist and boxing? (Unlike Boxing which only allows punches such as jabs and uppercuts, MMA allows for a wide range of strikes. https://absolutemma.com/blog/boxing-vs-mma-whats-the-difference/ ) and different styles.

    2. Which one is the seme? MMA
    - chapter 1 “REIGNING LIGHT HEAVYWEIGHT CHAMPION OF MFC'S* INTERNATIONAL
    MIXED MARTIAL ARTS TOURNAMENT.”
    3. Why call him a boxer? (Boxers are better when it comes to boxing. MMA fighters are better when it comes to MMA. https://wayofmartialarts.com/boxing-or-mma-which-one-is-better/)

    ——- I have not said anything about this but when somebody calls him a boxer it indicates to me they have not read the story carefully or understand it’s MMA fighter. (Or lazy)
    ———-

    4. Why do you think “there is no rape.” means we are saying there is no SA or abuse?
    5. Why do you think we see nothing wrong? Do you think “There is no rape” means we see a romantic love story?
    6. Do you know the difference between SA and Rape? From my friend, https://florinroebig.com/sexual-assault-guide/.

    Rape is a form of sexual assault. However, not all forms of sexual assault will be considered rape.

    This story is SA but not rape is what we are saying.
    We are not defending him. He is toxic. He is abusive. He isn’t rainbows and sunshine.
    7. Why do you think we are defending him
    8. Why do you think we think he is rainbows and sunshine?

    Your first question:
    I think any one should want him arrested for physical abuse. Why are you asking that? He slammed one uke’s face in the wall. He slammed Dan face in the pillow. He is abusive.

    Your question 1 was two questions. It seems for the second part you were trying to lead to your pov for a win. This would be cherry picking for the whole situation. Dan consented. Dan said Stop. When Joo asked him how many guys he had he stopped. He started again without asking which is a no-no. The next thing Dan says is to ask for him to a gentler. Consent can be given and taken away not once. Dan consented again because he could told him to stop but why would he ask that if he thought he was being rape or they were not equal status? Your question 1 part b was manipulative because the answer to that is rape but that doesn’t make the answer to jinx being rape. Joo paid for sex like be normally does. Rape is about control and power. If you think rape is sex - seek professional help. If you go to when Dan is crying, Joo is concerned. Dan lied to Joo and Joo is in the mindset he is in the mindset he is with someone with experience. He would had been easier on him if he knew. He is toxic and I am not defending him. It is dan’s fault too.

    In my comments I have used this as real life. If you want to call it rape you can’t call Joo a rapist because he is clueless. Everyone would be in trouble if we called him a rapist. As a rape crisis counselor it does come close to rape at times but the next scene changes it. On my first reading I was it is rape. We are not forcing this on anyone.
    As a whole of what is there it isn’t rape but if we add thoughts… but then in the real world wouldn’t we all be trouble
    -yes judge I told him yes.
    Yes judge I told him to put it in.
    Yes I said no but I told him to go gentle after.
    However I was thinking I don’t want this. I wanted to be done. I wanted him to stop as I verbally gave him consent, even after I took it away. Then judge I agree to a contract to have sex with him at anytime he wanted too. I am saying I am rape because I was THINKING I didn’t want to. Is Joo a mind reader? Can he see the background information and thoughts bubbles?

    The ones saying rape are harming real rape survivors. They repeatedly show they have not read it carefully and use background information or thought bubbles to say it rape. Joo is toxic but you got to look he stopped when he was crying and did stop at one of the times Dan said stop in their first time. Joo wants sex not rape.

    Your question two is irrelevant and manipulative.
    It has nothing to do with the story. Why do you think we don’t think we don’t know what rape is? Men who forces themselves on women and claims they are in “asking for” are monsters. They need life in prison or a death penalty. Rape is a hideous crime. It is barbaric what rape survivors have to go through. It is life altering and most rapist walk free. That is scary and many rape survivors don’t report it. Then the backlog of untested rape kits. What kind of question is that! Those women are not at fault. It is not the womens fault. They don’t need to blame themselves. It is the men with those thoughts and can’t control themselves. I’m glad to the ones that have the courage to talk about it. It helps them heal. That question shows you think we don’t know what rape is. If we answered yes that would somehow validate your pov on the story. Both your questions was on real life. This is a story.

    “If you didn't consent to the intercourse, changed your mind during the act, or asked your partner to stop doing something that is making you uncomfortable, and the person continues anyway, THAT IS R@PE. “ Yes. Another yes but it doesn’t validate your pov of the story. Dan consented and changed his mind many times. Many times. If you pick one you are cherry picking to your pov and not reading the full scene. Your quote isn’t the FULL story details. Consent can be given and taken away. Joo stopped one of those times. What story are you reading?

    “If you like this story anyway, that's fine.”
    1. One is a rape survivor who hates the story and the seme.
    2. One reads rape stories for a reason. He thinks it is dull. You should read other stories worst than this.
    3. I am a straight man. I analyze things my friend asked me to analyze this. I don’t like it or love it. I am a rape crisis counselor. I know what rape is and isn’t.

    “But the problem starts where your minds are so destroyed & desensitised by these acts that you can no longer recognise r@pe. That is very concerning.”
    This is a direct ad hominem from your pov. Where your questions were indirect. This is where your lost. It is “see my pov of rape or our minds are so destroyed & desensitised by these acts that you can no longer recognise r@pe”

    You are forcing your pov on us. That is the problem here. Please respect others that don’t share your pov. If you can’t handle that please seek professional help. You can’t live that way in this world. Our minds are not destroyed or desensitized to where we are forcing people into a pov and cyber bullying them over a story. We do recognize rape. We recognize this is a story, a fantasy and meant for entertainment. The story comes close to rape but it isn’t. We are not forcing that or giving an hominem to force you into it either. I don’t appreciate what you said or did here. Getting to the core of your message,it was filled of assumptions about us and just disgusting insults without trying to have a conversation. Do you miss my topic on this?

    Torakaze August 2, 2023 4:44 am
    We all know the difference. Do you? Real life and fictions are completely different. If all that happens real life, it's SA or r@pe. If it happens in fictions, the reader is free to interpret it any way they wa... Timber

    From the real-life questions to that ad hominem. I don’t know if they do. I don’t think they understood “it is not rape but SA and abusive.” bunch.

    And exactly.

    Torakaze August 2, 2023 4:54 am
    Uhm. How do I say this (sry not the best at explaining ⁄(⁄ ⁄·⁄ω⁄·⁄ ⁄)⁄ ) It is definitely SA and Jaekyung is definitely abusive towards Dan. It's very toxic. Arrest him for sure if you want... 。゚(゚´Д`゚)゚。

    “ nobody is defending him. He's a horrible person ”
    Very true.

    Agreed. I don’t think I mentioned the contract in my comment. The 2 of 3 questions were distracting as they were unrelated to the story.

    oneday August 2, 2023 1:12 pm

    man i miss this discourse in the comment section keep at it guys

    Megako-chan August 4, 2023 12:48 am
    We all know the difference. Do you? Real life and fictions are completely different. If all that happens real life, it's SA or r@pe. If it happens in fictions, the reader is free to interpret it any way they wa... Timber

    No babe, fictional rape is still rape. It's fictional, but rape is rape. Do yall even know what words mean?

    Megako-chan August 4, 2023 1:06 am
    I find many things very concerning in your post. 1. What is the difference between a MMA artist and boxing? (Unlike Boxing which only allows punches such as jabs and uppercuts, MMA allows for a wide range of st... Torakaze

    You said a whole lot of nothing. My first clue that your response was going to be a slew of nonsensical drivel was when you pointed out the difference between MMA & boxing as if that is relevant to whether or not the rapist seme is a rapist. If while having intercourse someone asks you to stop & you continue, that is rape. Period. He's a rapist. But I'm more concerned about the fact that yall refuse to acknowledge that he's a rapist than the fact that yall read & enjoy this story. Because as long as you're able to separate fiction from reality that's fine. He's a fictional character. He's not actually raping anyone in real life. Yet yall weirdos who live in the real world can't even recognise rape for what it is. Whether or not Dan is getting paid, if he withdrew consent during the act, the "MMA fighter" should stop & simply not pay him since he didn't deliver on the service. Since he continued on numerous occasions despite Dan's protests, that's rape. You sound like the kind of person that doesn't believe sex workers can be raped.

    Torakaze August 4, 2023 1:15 am
    No babe, fictional rape is still rape. It's fictional, but rape is rape. Do yall even know what words mean? Megako-chan

    No Bro.
    1.Fictional murder is still murder. It’s fictional, but murder is murder. Do y’all even know what words mean?
    - It is fictional because no one real dies. It is not murder in the real world. We consider it murder in the fantasy world.
    If we considered it murder in the real world we would be trying to arrest the characters according your logic.

    2. Fictional mugging is still mugging. It’s fictional, but mugging is mugging . Do y’all even know what words mean?
    - it is fictional because no one real is mugged or we would be trying to arrest characters according to your logic.


    No one real is rape.
    There is no rape in this story. Dan is not raped.
    You can view as rape. Would you stop degrading others because you feel you are right and better than everyone else?

    Torakaze August 4, 2023 1:30 am
    You said a whole lot of nothing. My first clue that your response was going to be a slew of nonsensical drivel was when you pointed out the difference between MMA & boxing as if that is relevant to whether ... Megako-chan

    “You said a whole lot of nothing.”
    —- Cool fantasy, bro: As I gave you proper responses and answered all your questions debunking your ignorance on what we said.
    — The story is clear he is a MMA fighter not a boxer. The nonsensical is your disgusting comment.
    - They story is clear he is not a rapist.
    - you are cherry picking to your pov.
    - No, bro, you are obsessed with rapist, you are making him one.
    - I have many it clear to you many times. I don’t enjoy this story. You do. I have no like or love. I am straight. My friend who read noncon story says this is dull and not rape. Stop gaslighting to your pov.
    - Megako is a sock puppet account.
    - Stop degrading others who understand what rape is.

    You sound like the kind of person who doesn’t like being wrong and go to great lengths to trying to prove everyone is wrong and failing each time. It is easy to admit your wrong and grow. It is easy to stop. It is harder to harass people with 7 or more accounts because you were proven wrong. You felt stupid. We didn’t make you feel that way. You did. Stop.

    Torakaze August 4, 2023 1:32 am

    Sock puppet.

    Torakaze August 4, 2023 2:59 am
    man i miss this discourse in the comment section keep at it guys oneday

    I do too. I wished it was here on this page. Sigh……

    Thank you for sharing your words of encouragement! We will try are best. We need to find more genuine people who want real conversations instead of the ones that are here to starts fights with violence and malice.