His fucking smirk actually made me feel nauseous. :( I'm not satisfied with this outcome tbh, he not only got away with it he doesn't see anything wrong with what he did, he liked seeing the bottom cry over him and yet the pussy ass top won't even make him cry during sex like he wants, that's what's most fucked up to me. Won't hurt him in a healthy mutual way, he has a hurt him nonconsensually and emotionally to feel good about himself.
Have you also abused your ex?
I'm sure that was directed at OP, but I have to step in and let you know that you're a trash bag masquerading as a person for asking someone something like that. Period. When someone says they were manipulated or abused and your question is "what did you do to deserve it" you're peak trash. (づ￣ ³￣)づ
FFS. This Sephielya needs help. So now when you ask things, you're automatically branding and assuming. Badmouthed me without even letting me explain my single question. Karen, go fuck yourself.
And OP, JulsV, my question was suppose to be whether the relationship was fair. If it's not, then good riddance to your ex. Trust is mutual. It doesn't work if it's just one person giving or having it. It doesn't make sense to hurt someone especially if the other party never did anything to hurt the other.
This pennyinhell needs to stop. Asking someone if they were abusive so that YOU can feel better about this complete stranger being abused is DISGUSTING. You legitimately think it's okay for people to abuse each other as long as they're BOTH doing it? Guess what it's not equal if there's abuse. Lol It's sad you think it's okay to be abusive if your partner is, and it's pathetic that you think abuse IS OKAY as long as the one being abusive was hurt first. Break up. Don't abuse your partner.
Accountability and responsibility. Self-reflection and self-awareness. Never said if both parties are toxic it's a good relationship and should be kept. Toxic relationships should be broken up but don't put yourself at the short end of the stick. Leave with your head held high. And if you did anything wrong in that relationship, it's what you learn and improve on the next one.
Again, you're shoving ideas. Not making an argument. You're not even the OP. Are you JulsV?
Thank you for being respectful with a stranger like me that feel bad bacause of the actions of a character that reminds me of someone that hurts me in the past.
I don't know if you think that I said that my relationship was like the characters because it wasn't. Seme's actions were like my ex. That's it.
I don't know if you really think that all people that go through this situations had to do something before to deserve it becuase this question was really off.
This is internet, i share something. You have rights to judge and ask but I have rights to do the same, and well your question would never be the first thing that come to my mind to answer to an stranger online.
Their question was way out of line, no problem! Some people forget they're dealing with real humans and not fictional characters sometimes I swear, and they lack basic empathy. I'm sorry for whatever you went through, you didn't deserve it no matter what!
I don't think every situation is the same that's why I asked. If I assumed and judged you right off the bat, I wouldn't have asked to begin with. Im sorry if the manner of my question is offending but like I mentioned in another reply, it was out of considering both sides of the situation, regardless of how evil the other person did. People often react than instigate and I simply wanted to know how it went. If you weren't ready to share more than what you have, that's fine. That's your right and that's all you had to say. I'm not attacking you in anyway.
If wanting to know and understand the situation that was shared publicly is wrong then so be it. I doubt any other explanation would be accepted anyway.
Also, don't let this person gaslight you. You're correct in saying it wasn't right to ask you that. They can pretend they had a right to ask all they want, we both know they didn't. Truth is that it doesn't matter one single bit how you behaved in the relationship, and shit people like Penny here would tell you that it was a good thing if you hurt your partner, or that you asked for it. Otherwise why would they ask that? To justify abuse.
The seme is just like my ex, the same type of manipulative person that smiles if their partner felt insecure because that made them feel better with themselves.
No matter what happened before this shows what kind of people the seme and the uke are trying to be and the energy they are putting in their relationship, and the seme deserves to be dumped.