You were right to block him. Hold strong. You cannot provide this person the sort of dedicated mental health counseling they need, absolutely none of this is your fault. It’s awful that other people are acting like this has anything to do with you.
Being in his life might make things worse not only for you but for him too.
We care about u b careful
Dont contact him or anything. In this life, everyone has their own problems. Him being centered and want you to pay attention to him is selfish.
I also have a friend similar like that. She’s not suicidal, but she blame everyone around her and become depressed. She doesn’t have any friends so i stayed for her for 5 years. Everyone told me to stop being friends, but i still persisted.
However, later I noticed that she got a new friend and completely ignored me. I confronted her, and she told me to stop being friends with her. When i said, ‘fine, but stay happy and healthy okay, i wish the best’. Then she blame me for not wanting to be friends.
Moral of the story : the guy is clearly using you and only seeing you as a ‘woman’ that serves man.
U DESERVE TO BE HAPPY. U HAVE YOUR OWN LIFE AND OTHER PROBLEMS TO FOCUS ON.
Move on. Forget everything. Dont contact hom, his, his friends, or anyone.
Live your life. Dont live his life. He doesn’t deserve you. He’ll find someone else.
Furthermore, the more you care, the more he is attached to you. By letting him go, u’re saving him and yourself. Be a little selfish, it’s okay. U must have it hard. Thank you for hanging there and holding on. Please live your life the way you want now.
I hope this can help. And i hope you are having a great day.
Thankyou so much. reading this made me burst into tears. Thankyou. I hope you have a great day too
Thankyou. Seriously thankyou. I was scared of posting this but I'm really glad I did.
Ok miss girl firstly calm down , lets breathe , for me, again in my opinion ,i applaude you for blocking him on everything, we should stay away from toxicness, that aside you already rejected him many times, that alone was a big hint you dont want to be with him, its not your fault he *unalive* himself , miss girl about his friend valling you a bitch and a spawn of satan, i believe in this situation he is more of a bitch and a spawn of satan, you did nothing wrong, what you gonna do? You cant force yourself unto someone you dont love, you cant forceyourself unto someone because he can end his own life , that friend who called youa bitch, is the bitch he dares call you that when his friend is in the wrong, i mean the boy who likes you was major possessive and obsessive , it wws out of hand. , i say ypu did the right thing and calm down and stay strong , dont contact him nor his friends or anything cuz you have nothing to do with it, live your life ,is ok to be selfish , i mean we have our own fair shair of problems, dont let him be a part of your problems, live your life , dont live in his circle cuz clearly hes a manipulative sad boy who does nothing but think of themselves as high and mighty just becayse theyre men, live you life hassle free , dont let him or any other person control you,
Stay storng bestie , and thankyou for your doing the best thing you can do
Im glad i can help :)
I can see how much u care for him even if u dont realize it. It might be hard at first, but if u start to feel bad again, remember (or think about) everything that he has done. And why u must make no contact.
That way, it can make the whole process easier.
Ofc im still thinking about my friend too, wondering if she’s alright now. But it’s better to imagine that she’s in a better place now. Dont ever contact him okay. Please please please i beg you.
Im sorry i write too much. I want to help as much as I could. U’re a good person. And i want you to focus on yourself.
Thank you and ask for your friend & family support if you need them.
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Now you can either :
1. Read good stories to increase your spirit
2. Read stories and cry and let out all your feelings
3. Call your friends/family
4. Just contemplate
5. Anything you want~
I'm so sorry this happened to you luv(please ignore the naming, my other option was honey). I was in a somewhat similar situation a while ago, and first things first, let me tell you that such a hateful creature will never kill himself. I promise you that this was their version of a prank and to 'punish you're. He hasn't done sh*t, and that's part of the reason why not one else is talking about it. Otherwise there'd definitely be talk. They're manipulating you, and I'm so so proud of you for blocking him luv. Be proud of yourself for having the kindness in your heart to have given him a chance, and be proud of the strength in your heart to put your foot down.
Once again, I reiterate, HE HASN'T DONE SHIT. HE HASN'T HURT HIMSELF. I WAS IN THE SAME SITUATION BEFORE.
People kept trying to tell me about what a good thing I'd be doing by dating a depressed person even though I wasn't interested, and he talked a lot about being depressed and wanting to kill everybody, including me, because we're all mean.
He only wants you as an emotional crutch that won't leave him even when he hurts you. What he needs is therapy and a level of emotional support that you cannot provide. Do not, and I mean DO NOT HURT YOURSELF TO "SAVE HIM'.
Sometimes in life we can only save one person, and it's okay for that person to be yourself. You did good. Have a lemonade, play some nice music and take a nap.
Sending you hugs from India. May your day and heart be warm.
ヾ(❀╹◡╹)ﾉﾞ❀~
No, thankyou. Thankyou for being so kind, bestie<3
I also want to add that he locked himself in the house and sent a mass suicide message because I cancelled a trip(that I already told him I wouldn't attend) and then.... Watched a new anime (don't remember which) for four hours straight. When someone finally got in, he said that he was just joking. His parents weren't worried and were used to it by then.
If he did anything and you were the cause, the parents would definitely contact you, instead of just the best friend. Don't worry friend, it'll all be good.
Bestie stay strong, sorry for the english tho, been too long since ive spoke this much english, hehe that aside , keep being atrong ,there are a lot more things you need to wery about, live your life, find someone who will love you in a way that it wint suffocate the both of you dont mind anything else remember "our life is our story, all of us may be side characters, but we are the protagonist of our own lives" so live your own life the way you want it to be , be strong ,loveyouu , and feel free to dm/message me here , ill be here for you
Hang in there girl. He isn’t your responsibility. You are not responsible for his mental state. He should seek professional help. It is good that you blocked him as staying with him any longer wouldn’t do you good, very toxic and manipulative. I hope things get better.
i’ve had a friend like that before who was suicidal and always said negative stuff about himself but unlike you I felt scared and didn’t have the courage to push him away. In the end, I suffered a lot from guilt and toxicity from him and had to get help. You’re very brave for blocking him!
I hope you get better and recover from that experience! (๑•ㅂ•)و✧
I'm sorry that happened to you. Thankyou for sharing your experience with me. I'm so glad I had the courage to post this. Once again, thankyou<3
Thankyou so much. I'm sorry you had to go through that. I hope you're better now<3
so there's this one guy who kinda likes me, the reason I use "kinda" is because I think he only likes the idea of dating someone and to have someone to lean on. I've rejected him multiple times, made it clear that I don't want to date him and we've decided to stay as friends. This guy is suicidal, has depression and anxiety and that makes it hard for me to turn away from him. He always talks about dying and killing himself if I don't reply for more than 4 hours and always says nobody is ever there for him when I've been clearly trying my best.
The real struggle is that this guy is homophobic, racist and misogynistic. Confronting people is my least favorite things to do but I've talked to him about this and that I want nothing to do with people like that but that didn't stop him. He started posting more and more "jokes" about how women belong in the kitchen and they're just a hole and many other stuff. I couldn't take it any longer and I blocked him on everything. And it felt really good. I no longer had to put up with his bullshit, and I could study and watch series without feeling anxious of how much time has passed. But last week I got a call from one of his friends saying how I was a bitch and that I was the spawn of Satan for driving his best friend to kill himself, the depressed guy attempted suicide, I got really scared and worried so I offered to visit him but they won't tell me anything, I asked around the school but none of them knew what happened and were just as shocked as me. Only that one friend who called me was the only one who knew and he won't pick up my calls. I really don't know what to do. Please tell me on what I should do, anything.