That's not true, actually. It can still be considered rape between a husband and wife. Specifically, it's called marital rape. I have mixed feelings on this scene. I've dated guys that said they'd like to wake up like that. However, I know I said if it ever happened to me, he'd be kicked in the balls, lol. The reason I wouldn't like it is b/c my consent would not be given. That's just my opinion though. I think it's about preference, but she was alarmed when she first woke up. It wasn't a happy feeling. So, I can't say it's ok since she reacted that way.
1. Marriage is not equivalent to consent. Consent can be given and taken away at any time.
2. There is no such thing as implied consent. The entire concept was coined to invalidate assault victims and give leeway to predators.
3. There is no way an unconscious person can give consent unless they had a specific and detailed conversation discussing this before.
4. Consent is not a one and done thing. It does need to be renewed and checked.
5. Being ok with something does not mean it's not wrong. Not saying no does not mean yes. And just becausehe did it before does not mean it is right.
I'm not going to argue with you weirdos about a woman's right to consent. Fictional story or not. Go look up the law and educate yourself because it is people like you who allow these narratives that are pushed in fictional realms to exist and still be perpetuated in the real world. And no amount of cutesy talk and kawaii emojis makes up for that.
Im not sure if this comment was made towards me but I completely understand what marital rape is and what rape is in general. In my comment I stated this is how their relationship is and they are both okay and happy with it. In the novel she was aware of what was going on the whole time and she let Hugh do it and afterwards they had sex like usual. I suggest reading the novel to get a better idea of the scene.
Honestly there is a thing called not wanting it, disliking, feeling uncomfortable, feeling forced etc. And she was completely fine with it and feeling it too.. Dude I don't wanna drag this pointless conversation since I know it won't work on some people anyway but u need to grow up and learn what actually marital rape is and so many woman are suffering from it in this world. Being a married woman for 8 years and a mother of a beautiful daughter too I don't think I need to learn about consent now and also my husband often does it at night when I am sleeping and it feels so amazing better than when I am awake. Well whatever
Stay safe and learn more about rape and marital life
Feeling fine with something doesn't mean consent was present. The absence of consent in sexual intercourse is rape. And it's sad to know if a woman in real life came forward in a case like this, none of you idiots would advocate for her.
I'm not saying she disliked it. I'm not saying that you cannot enjoy the story because of this. I'm not saying that you cannot separate fiction from reality, because I can and I understand that this is fictional and within this plot, there may not be anything wrong here.
What I am saying is that consent was not present and sex without consent is? Rape.
And the fact that you lack the critical thinking skills needed to discern that and move on shows that you will have the same ignorance in real life spaces where these issues are more than art on a page. Do better.
That's a personal preference that you can't force on other ppl. Just because it's something you like doesn't mean others would. I'm talking about outside of the scope of the story here. I've been in relationships where they thought it was ok, but I personally didn't like it. Meaning, if it had been done to me during that time, it would have been without my consent. That's why I said it was personal preference. I'm not going to shame ppl that are into it, but I don't feel it necessary to shame ppl that aren't either. Just because somebody doesn't have the same prefs as you doesn't mean they're ignorant on rape or marital life. As already stated by somebody else, rape isn't always gruesome with other physical abuse. And rape doesn't always have a female victim. And just like I'm not familiar with your life and can't say I've walked in your shoes as far as marriage and a child, you're not familiar with mine and haven't been through some of the things I have...and the same for everybody on here. Because of that, your statement of learn more about rape and such just sounds ignorant to me.
This will be my last reply dear
So when u r sleeping u r just sleeping its not like u became unconscious or senseless. When he touches me while I'm sleeping I wake up instantly and if I don't want to then he stops right there honey I believe its the same with most of the people unless they r sick or senseless or unconscious. So I won't say anything more about it. Let's just be happy with what we believe and prefer and also help people if we can.
Adios
So we just going pass over the fact that this is rape? Mkay.