A rant of sorts - I just want to tell someone

( ´ ▽ ` ) July 20, 2021 12:03 am

It’s been a good couple days since I’ve properly talked to my bf and this is putting me on edge, I might sound clingy but I really enjoy talking to him and hearing him say that they love me but they haven’t recently. I don’t want to push the matter cause I know they deal with depression and he hasn’t really done anything bad he just hasn’t had a proper conversation with me. I also just might not want to press it cause the last time we talked I said that they need to tell me they love me more often and sounded like a bit of a bitch when I did. I know that if it’s what he wants then I should back down and stop being so demanding but when I saw that he was rather upbeat and active on twt I just got kinda sad and feel like shit.

Responses
    July 20, 2021 12:06 am

    Try giving them some space, tell them you love them instead. Could be they are probably just tired or stressed and need someone to talk to

    ( ´ ▽ ` ) July 20, 2021 12:13 am
    Try giving them some space, tell them you love them instead. Could be they are probably just tired or stressed and need someone to talk to

    Mm he’s just not a very talkative person when it comes to his problems but I’ll try :)

    Ines_Ivy July 20, 2021 12:14 am

    Maybe he's going through something. Be there for him but don't be too pushy

    thatsaweirdhouseplant July 20, 2021 12:16 am

    Perhaps you should talk to him about how much talking means to you. You could introduce easier ways for him to communicate if he struggles with that, even if that's just smth like messaging you a heart to show he's thinking of you.

    ( ´ ▽ ` ) July 20, 2021 12:17 am
    Maybe he's going through something. Be there for him but don't be too pushy Ines_Ivy

    I’ll try my best

    ( ´ ▽ ` ) July 20, 2021 12:18 am
    Perhaps you should talk to him about how much talking means to you. You could introduce easier ways for him to communicate if he struggles with that, even if that's just smth like messaging you a heart to show ... thatsaweirdhouseplant

    I’ll tell him when he messages me next that if it’s too tiring he can always use simpler means like what you said

    defective condom July 20, 2021 12:52 am
    Mm he’s just not a very talkative person when it comes to his problems but I’ll try :) ( ´ ▽ ` )

    I'm not talkative abt mine either, so I'd say apologize and when u do try starting up a normal conversation and try sliding it off and restart in a civil and calm way. For me if something awkward has happened I normally just pretend it never happened and if it does come up I don't make a big deal out of it (if this sounds like him then I would do what I have mentioned) I wouldn't push him too hard if he struggles with communication on stuff like how he feels. That's the worse thing u could do lol
    Mainly if he's feeling depressive I really wouldn't push him.

    Another thing u can do is maybe give him some space (not too long but maybe a couple days) but do check in so he doesn't think ur ignoring him back

    defective condom July 20, 2021 12:54 am

    Also when I said "that's the worse thing u could do" I meant pushing him into communication**

    ( ´ ▽ ` ) July 20, 2021 1:40 am
    I'm not talkative abt mine either, so I'd say apologize and when u do try starting up a normal conversation and try sliding it off and restart in a civil and calm way. For me if something awkward has happened I... defective condom

    Thank you for your advice;; I messaged him before telling him that I still love him and how that if they need I’ll be there for them. I’m pretty sure they’re asleep at the moment cause he said on twt they were going to sleep really late so I’ll just have to wait and see.

    defective condom July 20, 2021 2:04 am
    Thank you for your advice;; I messaged him before telling him that I still love him and how that if they need I’ll be there for them. I’m pretty sure they’re asleep at the moment cause he said on twt they... ( ´ ▽ ` )

    Ah okay lmk how it goes then