could u please interact with this and tell me ur thoughts and experiences?

Well im from south asia and i relate to most of the things.

I am not old enough to go out on my own (im 15) but the thing about rape is kinda true, i remember telling my mom about this poor girl who got raped and killed and the first thing she said was that i shouldnt be around boys alone or i may end up like her. Its also a taboo topic, somthing that shouldnt be spoken about.

I hate the fact that when a woman is sexually assaulted in my country the first thing people ask is abput her clothing, like somehow its the womans fault.

I forgot to add, i cannot go outside too much even with a guardian cause apparently that ruins your reputation and it will make me look like a frivolous person?? Or something like that.

I have to double and triple check my outfit cause i cant wear anything thats too form fitting, showing my legs or too masculine (i ignore the third one though)


There is alot more but bothings coming to mind at the moment

hi! this the op here...(this ended up being longer than i expected but trust me, u wont regret reading till the end..i just wanna bring more awareness with my own story..i was kinda reluctant to add this on the actual question but the answers yall have given me wanted me to talk bout this too...soo uhm yeah )
TW: Molesting? (idrk if this si considered that but it prolly is )

uhm the reason i asked this is also because i remember several times when i was on vacation in my home country...i've been in situations that weren't really helping the cause...

ill start with the one that left me traumatised for a while...

i was in 5th grade...so around 10 years old...
i was wearing this purple sleeveless dress...but because we were in another state for visiting and cause of mosquitos....my mom made me wear a purple sweater underneath the purple dress...and the dress was knee length...and i was wearing purple tights underneath that too (i'm mentioning what i was wearing cuz i don't want people asking me what i was wearing which is already fucked up cuz i mentioned i was 10 already but still jic)

and we were visiting this monument....and the place was packed...like people were everywhere...
and there's a long path way we have to go to reach the ticket counter...
the pathway was around 6-7 feet in width....so its kinda narrow...
there were people who were leaving from the site and people like my fam and i who were headed to the site...

my brother and i were walking hand in hand together while my parents walked ahead of us...(not too far..they were close enough for me to reach my hand out and grab them)
and while we were walking this group of guys who looked like they were 17/18 y/o's walked towards me..
i didnt think much of it cuz i thought they were headed towards the exit...

but even after coming in like 10ft distance away from my brother and i they didnt move away... so i thought as the smaller ones we would have to move out of the way and as such i nudged my brother to move to the side and he did and so did i... but to my surprise these men moved to the side too...
and as reflex the both of us moved to our original path and these men moved back giggling and once they were in close distance to us...i saw their phone flash and then i realized what they were trying to do...idk why they needed a picture of a 10 year old girl (all covered up in the blazing heat) but they took the picture none the less...

immediate flashback to my parents (we were discussing about a movie)mentioning how the girl committed cuz someone took her picture and photoshopped it into the body of a nude girl and posted it online and no one would believe her when she said it wasn't her and some people even asked her to remove her clothes to prove that it wasn't her...hence she committed)

i was so nervous throughout the rest of the site visit..but i was happy cuz we were leaving the state that night...and 15 days after that we would leave the country itself...so the whole time i was on the train back to my state.. i was thinking "there''s no way they can find me..im leaving the state and 15 days later i'd leave the country..they wont find me... they cant blackmail me either...."
whenever a young man passed by our compartment i would get super nervous...

and the fact that i was thinking sm about this when i was friggin TEN YEAR OLD.....ik ten year olds now are more aware of these things..but this was in like 2013-2014.....
social media wasn't that big to people who were part of "developing countries" so many of us were quite unaware of these things... so back then a ten year being scared of sumn like this was similar to a squirrel trying to solve a math equation...

and now uk why im so scared to go back to the place...
this happened to me when i was in a different state... and the people in my state are more educated bt that doesnt people they're not horny...
more smart people just means more clever ways to dispose of a dead person.....

and tho i said middle east is okay it still isnt very rid of uk people like this because i remember one day when i was riding a bike in front of my apartment block and this man (he looked south asian) and he came up to me and asked me to type the sentence that was written on this poster on the wall..i thought her needed it for sumn and this was like a nokia phone..so typing one word takes like well over a minute for a child (i was maybe 8/9 when this happened) and this dude touched my cheat over the shirt multiple times on the reasoning of picking me up to see the poster clearly cuz it was a bit high up.... and when i was typing in this big word he caught me off guard by putting his hands down my pants.... he didnt touch me but i screamed and kicked him on the balls and then threw his phone on the ground and shattered...man ran for his life..
i've never seen the dude in this are again...

there was also another time when i was in my home country in my home state...and i was at this mall...and this dude comes upto me LITERALLY SNIFFS ME and i jump back and push him away (this was in a crowded mall i could've brought attention to this and he would've been kicked out but i wasn't bold enough back then and i was completely shook by his action i couldn't think straight... and this dude nonchalantly goes "u smell nice, what soap do use?" and since i was caught so off guard..i replied to him like it was normal and said "i haven't taken a bath today" and this guy replied with "oh even better" and walked off...i was maybe 14-15 when this happened...

so uhm what im trying to say is...girls/women/anyone whose outer appearance is more on the feminine side... as much as i wanna say educate boys.... i dont think "boys" will learn until one of the people in their fam goes through this... some might even have the audacity to say "it only happened cuz u wore that...or makeup...or other superficial stuff" and never their own animalistic instincts...
im very aware that men get raped too but more often by other men than women....and i wanna address this too but i dont really have that energy left in me...so im sorry to all the men who have gone through the same..
ur feelings are valid and i love and appreciate you<3


uhm soo...to all of u guys who took time out of ur days to answer this...i really appreciate this...

STAY SAFE<3 I LOVE YOU
I HOPE TO ONE DAY GROW SONS WHO RESPECT AND PROTECT WOMEN AND EDUCATE THEM WELL (i talk as if kids are plants lmfaoo...but none the less i hope the future of my kids are safe at least...if it isnt safe lets try to make it...the bare minimum is enough lets all try in our own ways... all the comments till now have been so respectful and i appreciate that... tysm for all ur support yes i will listen to my parents i wasn't like not going to listen to them...what they said just made me more afraid...but yes tysm for answering<3)

(i posted the same answer on my question hope u dont mind that i copy pasted it...
tysm for replying><)

I was like yay it’s the first time Middle eastern people are being contributed
Then I checked out the article and it was about rape and assault I-

oh im really sorry to disappoint but i really had to ask bout it...
but i will make a question on middle east culture later on if i get the time and energy...

i hope i didn't offend u in any way ><

Nooo It’s totally fine I am not offended in the slightest way
I actually answered ur question hope it helped u out

thank you<3
i really appreciate it...

hope u have a good day<3