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totally agree with you! cant bring myself to like the ML and his fam for always keeping her in the dark
She was forced by their society rules. Everyone expects a child within the first two years of marriage. So she really didn’t have a choice
this is kinda controversial, but i can kind of excuse her neglect because of what's happened to her and the environment she was in. hear me out, she was 16/15 (i forgot) and she was forced to have a family. AND YES she was forced don't give me that bullshit "oh she chose that for herself." she had no choice! forced to take on a role with zero support from the man she married (fucking asshole!!) and his family. isolated from the world she loved and thrived in. of course she was going to take it onto the child. (that's still bad though please don't do that to your children. if u need help, seek help.)
this is set so long ago. when there mental problems were viewed as insanity right off the bat. she had no one and no where to run to for psychological or emotional help without dragging her family's name to the mud. no one noticed also noticed. instead they belittled her. and believe me, if someone belittles you, you'll notice. plus, there was her jerk of a husband who was so emotionally stunted, he let her be.
raising a child is not a one man job if you're married, so i am very furious with how her husband dealt with her situation. most of us women do not need so much. as long as we know we are given what we deserve then we're good. imagine a husband who's always absent and instead just gives you material things rather than material things AND SUPPORT AS A CO-PARENT. damn her self-image must be so bad because of that. let's also take into account how he was clearly an educated man with money, so their dynamic had a huge power imbalance. we all know how that goes, right??
maybe i am biased. having a young aunt (parents were also young but not present) who raised me unwillingly really put things into perspective for me. not everyone is made to become a parent, and it's not their fault especially if their environment is basically a conservative shithole. get help then have kids. thanks.