I feel like most people wouldnt want to discuss their sex life in depth with their friends, especially if its so uncertain. I can understand why he doesnt want to say he's having casual sex with this guy.
My friends I have an understanding to never go into depth of our sexual experiences with our boyfriends. That being said all he had to do is tell her that they had sex... thats it.. its not that hard. I only say that because now she is working towards getting them together when they've already been intimate.
not everyone is that comfortable with revealing their sex lives.
Exactly
I completely understand. I'm the same way too. However eventually she will find out & I hope it's him who tells her & not someone else no matter how long it takes .
I don’t always tell my friends everything and when I do sometimes I don’t always tell them right away. All my friends are different so I go to some for some things and some go to with other things, I don’t always tell all of them. Also I spare details about my sex life unless it’s relevant to the conversation. It’s not because I CANT talk to them about whatever because I definitely can and I trust them, it’s just that I don’t always WANT to tell them (for no particular reason)
I'm not saying you have to tell then every single detail... thats uncalled for. All I'm saying is when he's ready he should tell her that they've already been intimate... thats all.
That's the thing he himself is uncomfy with the situation he's in, and then blurt it out to a friend who you know would worry on how dumb of a shit he got himself into?
Also im just curious:
Just exposing every little thing your life to someone isnt that hard? Idk man I have close friends where we CAN talk about anything and everything but it isnt mandatory to actually show and tell everything. In all honesty, Isnt that burdening? For both of you? You need to tell them something but they have a life or like you lose them like you go diff ways how's that supposed to work then?
Respectfully it feels like your not comprehending my comment. When he is ready, whether it is a week, a month from now he can eventually her.. when he is ready. He does not have to tell her ALL of the details of his encounter.
I never said exposing every detail about your life wasn't hard. Also you don't have to share things that you do not want to. But if you started dating someone and it was going pretty well and some time had past wouldn't you want your friend to know? If you think telling your friend stuff about your private life is burdensome then idk what to tell you (that sounds more like a you problem because I don't see it that way). But I'm sorry that you're going through life thinking that way but when you're comfortable with your friend that you're close to it shouldn't be that hard when you're going through something.
He should have just told her everything. If you can't tell your friends about things that are on your mind that you want to talk about... why even be friends with them. It can't just be all good things... you have to be able to talk about the uncomfortable things too. (Thats how you know if they're your true friend or not).