It's not a question here but maybe a rant and little bit of advice seeking i guess. So sin...

he's probably gay, ya. but it might be possible if you guys are really close to each other. either that, or he actually is bi, but just never really realized he likes both because he might not have ever liked a girl before you. ╮(￣▽￣)╭

You know, just because he's effeminate doesn't mean he's necessarily into guys.
Sexual orientations can also change. So it's possible that he was into guys before but just realized his feelings for you.

You know, just because he's effeminate doesn't mean he's necessarily into guys.
Sexual orientations can also change. So it's possible that he was into guys before but just realized his feelings for you.

Well, to be honest the gay part is what I always picture him as. He never actually says anything about his sexual orientation. I assumed this via my experience with Yaoi actually.

I think you shouldn't take to heart the fact that he's presumably gay. Feelings don't always work in a clear pattern, so he still might be gay, with you as an exception. The thing you really need to think about is his confession. Can you (or can you ever) feel the same way about him? Does the confession make you feel good, or very bad? Or maybe just confused? Can you still be his friend, even when you know he likes you? Even though he might be gay, you still need to take his confession seriously, and talk to him about it. It may not be easy, but I quarantee you, it will hurt him less than ignoring his confession. It probably took a lot of courage for him to say it aloud. Good luck to you and your friendship!

oh. well, yaoi is never the best place to look to for advice... xD but, if he never actually said he was gay, then i guess it would be unfair to assume him as one. he could be straight, too. there are many guys like that. they're simply just very feminine. so ya, what are you gonna do about the confession tho?

gay or not, that doesn't matter. What does matter is that he has feelings for you. How do you feel about him (knowing everything that you do now)?

Just because someone is gay doesn't mean that they will only love men.

Also did he say he 'liked' you or loved you (it gets a little confusing since it can be like or "like") and if you love him too I don't see a problem. The fact that you stayed by him even though he was/ is gay was probably a big help and relief and some romances start from friendships.

And from what u sais about the confession being at the airport, my assumption is you'll be apart for a while, which is good, so you can sort out your feelings. After all some people don't reliez they r in love till some one confesses to them and the person confessed to becomes more aware of the person who confessed, either in a good or a bad way (though I'm only speaking from a 'readers' perspective where black and white is common, the real world is... 'gray' area)

But remember the decision is up to you.

i agree. doesn't really matter if he's gay or not. right it all depends on your feelings if you want to be more than friends or just friends.
And i also agree with aquasan. probably shouldn't assume about someone's sexuality. if ur confused better to just ask up front.

Has he actually admitted he's gay, maybe he's bi? But it doesn't matter if he's gay or not. You Like Who You Like. Also, if your wondering then ask him questions?

Thank you for your advice. I actually brushed his confession off as a joke and simply ran away to the opposite direction. But that doesn't mean his confession is repulsive or anthing it was just reflect from my panic mind. But I'll surely talk to him when I'm ready.

I haven't sorted out my feeling for him yet. I'm still in a state of confusion and shock.

I haven't figured out my feeling for him yet. I'm still panicking and all.

Well he said "like" as in "into" or "crush". It happened so recently that I have yet to settle my mind about his confession. I will sort it out and talk to him soon though. Thanks for your advice.

I'm still scared to talk to him to be honest. And in my culture, it's not common even among close friends to talk or ask about their sexual orientations. But I'll talk with him when I'm calmer. Thanks.

He's never admitted actually. But I've never seen him with any guys or girls these 4 years I've been best friend with him. I assumed he's gay because of his feminine cha racer. (I know it sounds judgemental but please understand the mind of a devoted yaoi fan who wants to be a momma to at least one gay person.). And I know the term "the heart wants what it wants" regardless of who you are but it just suprised me that it happened to me so suddenly. I will talk to him soon but after I sort out what I actually feel about him and his confession.

Confessing to you at an airport as he leaves for a long period of time tells me that he's not being honest with you or himself. Also,whether he's gay or straight isn't something you should be asking a yaoi audience. Real men don't act, think, or talk like the men in yaoi, and those who read yaoi aren't here to read about real men. If you're basing your conclusions about this guy on what you've learned here, you're bound to be way off. Forget about this guy who plays mind games confessing at airports. He probably wants to keep you on ice while he is out, looking for new experiences. In that way, he is acting like a real man.